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Every interaction escalates to a blow up fight..what do we do, not talk to difficult child ever?
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<blockquote data-quote="PlainJane" data-source="post: 596158" data-attributes="member: 11700"><p>Thank you. He is officially diagnosis as high functioning autism. I guess giving the answer over and over never occured to me as an option. It feels like to my husband and I he is playing games. ALthough I did recently do a social story with him about asking questions, what they are for, and asking them when we know the answers (I've been doing them myself to fit his needs) And he coudl not answer why the boy in the story asked questions he knew the answer to. He just had no idea. I was trying to find out why HE did it, I thought maybe it would give some insight...difficult child was fully aware of the consequences of asking known questions, he was able to explain to me *after the story that people stop answering questions you don't know because they think you do know. difficult child is very bringht, which is why I was so surprised he could not give any reason why the character would do this...</p><p></p><p>So i wouldnt if he doesnt know why he does it, that there's no malicious purpose like playing games or looknig for a fight...</p><p></p><p>I do try not to engage with him in ways that would cause a fight, but I have to admit that after while talking to him is just one gaint "fight avoidance" strategy and it gets exhausting. </p><p></p><p>It is so hard not to blame myself even with his little brother being completely typical. My parents blame me, and they have from the beginning, husband doesn't blame me at all. </p><p></p><p>There's hard days and less hard days, lol, I'v just been having several hard days this past week.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="PlainJane, post: 596158, member: 11700"] Thank you. He is officially diagnosis as high functioning autism. I guess giving the answer over and over never occured to me as an option. It feels like to my husband and I he is playing games. ALthough I did recently do a social story with him about asking questions, what they are for, and asking them when we know the answers (I've been doing them myself to fit his needs) And he coudl not answer why the boy in the story asked questions he knew the answer to. He just had no idea. I was trying to find out why HE did it, I thought maybe it would give some insight...difficult child was fully aware of the consequences of asking known questions, he was able to explain to me *after the story that people stop answering questions you don't know because they think you do know. difficult child is very bringht, which is why I was so surprised he could not give any reason why the character would do this... So i wouldnt if he doesnt know why he does it, that there's no malicious purpose like playing games or looknig for a fight... I do try not to engage with him in ways that would cause a fight, but I have to admit that after while talking to him is just one gaint "fight avoidance" strategy and it gets exhausting. It is so hard not to blame myself even with his little brother being completely typical. My parents blame me, and they have from the beginning, husband doesn't blame me at all. There's hard days and less hard days, lol, I'v just been having several hard days this past week. [/QUOTE]
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