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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 747313" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>Hi exhausted. I am not an attorney nor have I gone to court for an eviction. However, my common sense tells me that in a legal proceeding the judge has to follow the law. The law does not take into account enabling. Landlords all over the world can bend over backwards to be kind or tolerant to tenants, but then it is a step too far. It sounds like you are judging yourself. This is not helpful and not fair. You cannot be guilty of two opposite things at once: trying too hard, and deciding no longer to try so hard.</p><p></p><p>This is very typical of what we do as mothers, in the situations we find ourselves. Blame ourselves for all sides. This is unkind. This is the first step. To be kind to yourself and to seek kindness from others.</p><p>Your son is victimizing you at every turn. You are unsafe in your home. Transgressing against your property and your boundaries and your personal space are all serious. He does not have to hit you or swear or insult you. There are all kinds of ways to be unsafe. He considers all that is yours to be his, to do what he chooses, without consequences. These thefts are all violations of the law. Since this is repetitive, have you considered calling the police and filing police reports? If somebody is victimizing you criminally, there are different rules for eviction, as far as I know. I think it may be 3 days.</p><p></p><p>I do not think your son is undeserving of due process, as a tenant would be under normal circumstances. But I believe there would have to be a paper trail. That is why the police reports are essential.</p><p></p><p>I have called the police on my son many times. He has never been arrested. I have filed letters of trespass and I have had my son removed from my property a number of times. It is not as emotionally difficult as I would think, because I have been traumatized by how long this has gone on, and the costs to me...and to him.</p><p></p><p>Anyway. Welcome. And good luck.</p><p></p><p>PS I hope you do not take him to court.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 747313, member: 18958"] Hi exhausted. I am not an attorney nor have I gone to court for an eviction. However, my common sense tells me that in a legal proceeding the judge has to follow the law. The law does not take into account enabling. Landlords all over the world can bend over backwards to be kind or tolerant to tenants, but then it is a step too far. It sounds like you are judging yourself. This is not helpful and not fair. You cannot be guilty of two opposite things at once: trying too hard, and deciding no longer to try so hard. This is very typical of what we do as mothers, in the situations we find ourselves. Blame ourselves for all sides. This is unkind. This is the first step. To be kind to yourself and to seek kindness from others. Your son is victimizing you at every turn. You are unsafe in your home. Transgressing against your property and your boundaries and your personal space are all serious. He does not have to hit you or swear or insult you. There are all kinds of ways to be unsafe. He considers all that is yours to be his, to do what he chooses, without consequences. These thefts are all violations of the law. Since this is repetitive, have you considered calling the police and filing police reports? If somebody is victimizing you criminally, there are different rules for eviction, as far as I know. I think it may be 3 days. I do not think your son is undeserving of due process, as a tenant would be under normal circumstances. But I believe there would have to be a paper trail. That is why the police reports are essential. I have called the police on my son many times. He has never been arrested. I have filed letters of trespass and I have had my son removed from my property a number of times. It is not as emotionally difficult as I would think, because I have been traumatized by how long this has gone on, and the costs to me...and to him. Anyway. Welcome. And good luck. PS I hope you do not take him to court. [/QUOTE]
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