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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 629266" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>They usually send a letter when the case is closed. When you do foster care, especially when the children are of different races, it is just par for the course than strangers call CPS on you and the worker comes out, sees that you are fostering, say, black kids or Native American kids, and pretty much just walk back out the door again and you do get an official notification that the case has been dropped.</p><p></p><p>You know what? You don't need to get so angry at Cory that you call him names. Janet, you are good hearted and so much better than that. Why even bother? You want to hang up? Hang up. Don't get involved and tangled up in his life. Let him work it out. He has to be closing in on thirty by now and there is no reason for any adult child to talk to his mother that way, especially since you have done SO MUCH for him. Of course difficult children don't appreciate it, but we don't have to listen to their abuse. </p><p></p><p>My strategy of quietly and gently hanging up on 36 each time he raises his voice is really working...lol. He was shocked at first, but now our phone calls are almost.....pleasant. He knows I won't put up with that crapola from him and that if wants to have a nice conversation with me, that's fine, but I'm not listening to abuse. Only took me 36 years...haha. But, really, it is so refreshing. Because it is so ingrained in him to get abusive, the very first sign of a loud, angry voice and *click* the call has terminated. </p><p></p><p>One thing about difficult children: If you don't mean what you say and do what you say you'll do, they won't treat you any better. I have learned that slipping up one time is a mistake. </p><p></p><p>I hope Cory one day learns to appreciate the wonderful mother and grandmother you are. Janet, your health doesn't allow you to let your grown kids affect your blood pressure. Selfishly, I think I think I speak for more than just me when I say we need you here and we love you and care. </p><p></p><p>I hope you had a good time with Monkey. Sending you vibes of peace and serenity. You should not be called names by someone whom you have been so kind to.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 629266, member: 1550"] They usually send a letter when the case is closed. When you do foster care, especially when the children are of different races, it is just par for the course than strangers call CPS on you and the worker comes out, sees that you are fostering, say, black kids or Native American kids, and pretty much just walk back out the door again and you do get an official notification that the case has been dropped. You know what? You don't need to get so angry at Cory that you call him names. Janet, you are good hearted and so much better than that. Why even bother? You want to hang up? Hang up. Don't get involved and tangled up in his life. Let him work it out. He has to be closing in on thirty by now and there is no reason for any adult child to talk to his mother that way, especially since you have done SO MUCH for him. Of course difficult children don't appreciate it, but we don't have to listen to their abuse. My strategy of quietly and gently hanging up on 36 each time he raises his voice is really working...lol. He was shocked at first, but now our phone calls are almost.....pleasant. He knows I won't put up with that crapola from him and that if wants to have a nice conversation with me, that's fine, but I'm not listening to abuse. Only took me 36 years...haha. But, really, it is so refreshing. Because it is so ingrained in him to get abusive, the very first sign of a loud, angry voice and *click* the call has terminated. One thing about difficult children: If you don't mean what you say and do what you say you'll do, they won't treat you any better. I have learned that slipping up one time is a mistake. I hope Cory one day learns to appreciate the wonderful mother and grandmother you are. Janet, your health doesn't allow you to let your grown kids affect your blood pressure. Selfishly, I think I think I speak for more than just me when I say we need you here and we love you and care. I hope you had a good time with Monkey. Sending you vibes of peace and serenity. You should not be called names by someone whom you have been so kind to. [/QUOTE]
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