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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 731928" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Hi, hon. I am so sorry. You are not alone.</p><p></p><p>Are you doing anything for yourself? Al Anon? Private therapy? I think one or both would be a great start. Do NOT let your daughter ruin your marriage. He will be there for you when your daughter heads for the hills. She is an adult and needs to either dry out or accept living in bad places, maybe in shelters, because that is what drug addicts do if they refuse to get clean. Her situation is 100 percent her own doing and fault. Not 1 percent your fault. Her words of manipulation have no logical meaning...I call it verbal vomit. Don't listen. Disconnect your phone if she pleads or abuses. Nobody should listen to abuse. This fully grown adult child abusing you is domestic abuse. Would you put up with it from your husband? Anyone else?</p><p></p><p>You can't help her stop. You have a little boy to raise and he will be better off if you nuture your marriage and provide him with stability from now on. Mom is chaos but that is not his fault. It was super kind that you took him in and he needs your attention. Your daughter is choosing her path.</p><p></p><p>The rest of you deserve a quiet, drama free, safe home and the money needs to stay with the three of you, not the addict. We all know how they guilt and whine and abuse us...that certainly is no reason for us to feel we have to treat them as if they are little children who do t know what they need to do in order to do better. Your daughter knows she needs to quit meth, but she won't, even putting meth above her son. But she CAN quit if she really wants to. But you can't make her do it. You can not.</p><p></p><p>Others will come along. I hope you start learning to detach. I loved Al Anon and my therapist too. Give resources a try???</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 731928, member: 1550"] Hi, hon. I am so sorry. You are not alone. Are you doing anything for yourself? Al Anon? Private therapy? I think one or both would be a great start. Do NOT let your daughter ruin your marriage. He will be there for you when your daughter heads for the hills. She is an adult and needs to either dry out or accept living in bad places, maybe in shelters, because that is what drug addicts do if they refuse to get clean. Her situation is 100 percent her own doing and fault. Not 1 percent your fault. Her words of manipulation have no logical meaning...I call it verbal vomit. Don't listen. Disconnect your phone if she pleads or abuses. Nobody should listen to abuse. This fully grown adult child abusing you is domestic abuse. Would you put up with it from your husband? Anyone else? You can't help her stop. You have a little boy to raise and he will be better off if you nuture your marriage and provide him with stability from now on. Mom is chaos but that is not his fault. It was super kind that you took him in and he needs your attention. Your daughter is choosing her path. The rest of you deserve a quiet, drama free, safe home and the money needs to stay with the three of you, not the addict. We all know how they guilt and whine and abuse us...that certainly is no reason for us to feel we have to treat them as if they are little children who do t know what they need to do in order to do better. Your daughter knows she needs to quit meth, but she won't, even putting meth above her son. But she CAN quit if she really wants to. But you can't make her do it. You can not. Others will come along. I hope you start learning to detach. I loved Al Anon and my therapist too. Give resources a try??? [/QUOTE]
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