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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 193523" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>As a general rule, we put in our sigs what doctors have diagnosed. At least I do. But I think sometimes doctors hand out labels like alphabet soup, when the 'disorder' is actually a symptom, part of the whole package. For example difficult child 3 has a diagnosis of high-functioning autism. But he also has ADHD, Sensory Integration Disorder (SID), Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD), Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD) (which is a blanket term which includes autism) and anxiety. It is all connected to his autism. He's not been officially diagnosed as ODD but he would meet the criteria. Again, he is like this (or used to be - he's amazing, now) because our way of handling him was actually making him worse, he was not getting the right care (for him). What we were doing - it would have been right for a 'normal' kid, but for him - we had to change. When we changed, he did a lot better. So I looked at the new methods and realised - I could do that with easy child kids just as easily. </p><p></p><p>IQ testing - make sure you get a copy of the sub-scores, all those separate tests which then get averaged out to give a final IQ score. They can be very helpful in finding ways to help the child. Any large differences in sub-score tests can point to areas where the child could need remedial help. Any high score areas show the child's gifts which would benefit form being encouraged.</p><p></p><p>Sometimes when sub-scores get averaged, and all teachers or parents are given is the overall IQ score, it can give you a false impression that she is doing well for a kid with that score. As in, "Your child is doing well at school really, for a kid who is only a little above average." (we actually got told this, about both difficult child 1 and difficult child 3). In actuality, as in difficult child 3's case, the sub-scores showed very low test results in some areas and very high in others. Since a child cannot 'fake' a false high result, the higher scores indicate the child's true abilities if only there were no learning problems.</p><p>So instead of a slightly above-average child who is doing well, you could have (as we have had) a child who is very bright but learning-disabled; a child who is frustrated with himself and others for failing to help, who is really struggling in some areas (and would benefit from coaching or remedial assistance) and who could become a real behaviour problem if nothing is done.</p><p></p><p>In difficult child 1's case, a low sub-score in Coding, for example, eventually signposted to the child's vision problems which were easily remedied with specs. He had other problems too, but each one could at least be helped, with an eventual improvement in his performance.</p><p></p><p>Your child is difficult with you but not others - she knows you love her, she feels safe with you and she can't hold it in ALL the time. It's a common problem.</p><p></p><p>If you can, get your husband to lurk here or post here. Mine does, it has made a big difference in so many ways.</p><p></p><p>And don't rule out the high-functioning autism or related conditions - the "not a cuddler" is interesting. And she is still very young. At least Asperger's could still be a possibility, as well as the sensory issues you describe and the extreme interest in some things (like Hannah Montana). But don't be spooked by the possibility of Asperger's - she is who and what she is already, and in this world are some amazing Aspies. To read more, look up just about anything written by Tony Attwood.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 193523, member: 1991"] As a general rule, we put in our sigs what doctors have diagnosed. At least I do. But I think sometimes doctors hand out labels like alphabet soup, when the 'disorder' is actually a symptom, part of the whole package. For example difficult child 3 has a diagnosis of high-functioning autism. But he also has ADHD, Sensory Integration Disorder (SID), Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD), Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD) (which is a blanket term which includes autism) and anxiety. It is all connected to his autism. He's not been officially diagnosed as ODD but he would meet the criteria. Again, he is like this (or used to be - he's amazing, now) because our way of handling him was actually making him worse, he was not getting the right care (for him). What we were doing - it would have been right for a 'normal' kid, but for him - we had to change. When we changed, he did a lot better. So I looked at the new methods and realised - I could do that with easy child kids just as easily. IQ testing - make sure you get a copy of the sub-scores, all those separate tests which then get averaged out to give a final IQ score. They can be very helpful in finding ways to help the child. Any large differences in sub-score tests can point to areas where the child could need remedial help. Any high score areas show the child's gifts which would benefit form being encouraged. Sometimes when sub-scores get averaged, and all teachers or parents are given is the overall IQ score, it can give you a false impression that she is doing well for a kid with that score. As in, "Your child is doing well at school really, for a kid who is only a little above average." (we actually got told this, about both difficult child 1 and difficult child 3). In actuality, as in difficult child 3's case, the sub-scores showed very low test results in some areas and very high in others. Since a child cannot 'fake' a false high result, the higher scores indicate the child's true abilities if only there were no learning problems. So instead of a slightly above-average child who is doing well, you could have (as we have had) a child who is very bright but learning-disabled; a child who is frustrated with himself and others for failing to help, who is really struggling in some areas (and would benefit from coaching or remedial assistance) and who could become a real behaviour problem if nothing is done. In difficult child 1's case, a low sub-score in Coding, for example, eventually signposted to the child's vision problems which were easily remedied with specs. He had other problems too, but each one could at least be helped, with an eventual improvement in his performance. Your child is difficult with you but not others - she knows you love her, she feels safe with you and she can't hold it in ALL the time. It's a common problem. If you can, get your husband to lurk here or post here. Mine does, it has made a big difference in so many ways. And don't rule out the high-functioning autism or related conditions - the "not a cuddler" is interesting. And she is still very young. At least Asperger's could still be a possibility, as well as the sensory issues you describe and the extreme interest in some things (like Hannah Montana). But don't be spooked by the possibility of Asperger's - she is who and what she is already, and in this world are some amazing Aspies. To read more, look up just about anything written by Tony Attwood. Marg Marg [/QUOTE]
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