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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 724657" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>I think having an evaluation is wonderful. Many of us went through the great first week and falling apart second week with any new method or program we tried to help with our kid's problems. It sure was the way things worked for my kids. </p><p></p><p>With the reactions to music and other things, please include an Occupational Therapy evaluation for Sensory Integration Disorder. This is when your brain doesn't process the input from your senses the way it does in normal people. You end up feeling like the entire world is attacking you much of the time. I have had this all of my life and it can be very difficult to juggle it. I am extremely sensitive to smells, textures, sounds and certain types of lighting. I don't touch cotton balls unless it is a dire emergency. No one in my house wears scented anything or any type of perfume unless it is an essential oil that I can tolerate. I cannot walk down the candle aisle in any store unless I hold my breathe. The scent things are an instant migraine along with making me gag and sometimes actually vomit. It really is that bad for me. The new sports fabrics that so many shirts are made out of? Like the Under Armour shirts or whatever they are called? I cannot even touch them when I fold laundry. They feel that awful to me. If I wear a shirt or dress that itches, I literally cannot focus on anything else until I get the itchy item off of me. The sensation of itching is so overpowering for me that it takes over and I cannot ignore it. </p><p></p><p>There are other sensations I seek out because they are very comforting. Certain blanket textures against my skin help me have a better night's sleep. The feel of a book in my hand is one of my favorite things to feel. I do read books on my computer, but it will never replace printed books for me because of how they feel and how they smell when they are new. Sadly it isn't a scent you could bottle. </p><p></p><p>Some people with Sensory Integration Disorder (SID) seek out certain sensations. They need movement or certain body positions or pressure on certain parts of their body. My youngest son spent a good portion of his life until about age 8 sitting on his head on the couch as he read or watched tv. As long as he kept his feet out of other people's space, I could have cared less. He was the 3rd kid so he got away with a lot more without parental interference. Plus I always figured if they were not bugging me or hurting anyone, I didn't much care if they were doing something odd. When he was 6 we learned it was because of Sensory Integration Disorder (SID) that he did this. And that it actually was good for him to do it. The pressure filled a need and helped him. </p><p></p><p>You can learn more about this by reading a book called The Out of Sync Child by Kranowitz. I realize you are sure your son has ODD. I am not saying he does not have ODD. Often treating ODD involves approaching the problem from several different directions. Sensory problems can be a major underlying issue for ODD for many kids. If you help them with the sensory problems, they are much easier to be around and they cope with the world better. They don't feel so attacked by the world because their brain has learned how to cope with the sensory input more effectively. </p><p></p><p>Just so you know, the treatments the Occupational Therapist will give you to help your son will be some of the best for you (the parent). Generally your son will like them, so you can say YES instead of NO to him. You won't have to force him to do therapy, which is a nice thing. Lots of the stuff is actually a lot of fun for everyone in the family. It is a great way to help build your relationship with your child and help build a strong family when you get the whole family involved with some of the activities. Plus there is one specific therapy called brushing therapy with joint compressions. It does some amazing things in the brain to create new pathways for the brain to handle input from the senses. It does this with absolutely NO medication. This is a therapy that is proven to help create lasting changes for your child while not requiring you to force pills on him and you don't have to worry about medication side effects. I was really skeptical about this when I first heard this, but it is true. Most kids even seem to find the brushing rather pleasant. </p><p></p><p>This is just something to think about. You mentioned the volume levels and some other things like the son always having to run around wildly, etc... that made me think he might have sensory issues. An Occupational Therapy evaluation for Sensory Integration Disorder (SID) would be able to give you a lot of great information. I would get a private evaluation done and would not rely on the school district. You truly get what you pay for. Plus the school occupational therapist would only look at how his issues would impact his time at school, not his whole life. You would not get the information that you truly need. </p><p></p><p>Once you have the info from the private evaluation, you can get sensory breaks build into his day at school if this is needed. This would be time for him to do some activities to help deal with however these issues are impacting his education. Part of his problems at home could be because he spends so much effort working so hard to sit still and pay attention at school. he just has nothing left to use to control himself when he gets home. </p><p></p><p>Again, these are just my thoughts, and what I would do if I had this sort of problem. Whatever you can do, you have my support!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 724657, member: 1233"] I think having an evaluation is wonderful. Many of us went through the great first week and falling apart second week with any new method or program we tried to help with our kid's problems. It sure was the way things worked for my kids. With the reactions to music and other things, please include an Occupational Therapy evaluation for Sensory Integration Disorder. This is when your brain doesn't process the input from your senses the way it does in normal people. You end up feeling like the entire world is attacking you much of the time. I have had this all of my life and it can be very difficult to juggle it. I am extremely sensitive to smells, textures, sounds and certain types of lighting. I don't touch cotton balls unless it is a dire emergency. No one in my house wears scented anything or any type of perfume unless it is an essential oil that I can tolerate. I cannot walk down the candle aisle in any store unless I hold my breathe. The scent things are an instant migraine along with making me gag and sometimes actually vomit. It really is that bad for me. The new sports fabrics that so many shirts are made out of? Like the Under Armour shirts or whatever they are called? I cannot even touch them when I fold laundry. They feel that awful to me. If I wear a shirt or dress that itches, I literally cannot focus on anything else until I get the itchy item off of me. The sensation of itching is so overpowering for me that it takes over and I cannot ignore it. There are other sensations I seek out because they are very comforting. Certain blanket textures against my skin help me have a better night's sleep. The feel of a book in my hand is one of my favorite things to feel. I do read books on my computer, but it will never replace printed books for me because of how they feel and how they smell when they are new. Sadly it isn't a scent you could bottle. Some people with Sensory Integration Disorder (SID) seek out certain sensations. They need movement or certain body positions or pressure on certain parts of their body. My youngest son spent a good portion of his life until about age 8 sitting on his head on the couch as he read or watched tv. As long as he kept his feet out of other people's space, I could have cared less. He was the 3rd kid so he got away with a lot more without parental interference. Plus I always figured if they were not bugging me or hurting anyone, I didn't much care if they were doing something odd. When he was 6 we learned it was because of Sensory Integration Disorder (SID) that he did this. And that it actually was good for him to do it. The pressure filled a need and helped him. You can learn more about this by reading a book called The Out of Sync Child by Kranowitz. I realize you are sure your son has ODD. I am not saying he does not have ODD. Often treating ODD involves approaching the problem from several different directions. Sensory problems can be a major underlying issue for ODD for many kids. If you help them with the sensory problems, they are much easier to be around and they cope with the world better. They don't feel so attacked by the world because their brain has learned how to cope with the sensory input more effectively. Just so you know, the treatments the Occupational Therapist will give you to help your son will be some of the best for you (the parent). Generally your son will like them, so you can say YES instead of NO to him. You won't have to force him to do therapy, which is a nice thing. Lots of the stuff is actually a lot of fun for everyone in the family. It is a great way to help build your relationship with your child and help build a strong family when you get the whole family involved with some of the activities. Plus there is one specific therapy called brushing therapy with joint compressions. It does some amazing things in the brain to create new pathways for the brain to handle input from the senses. It does this with absolutely NO medication. This is a therapy that is proven to help create lasting changes for your child while not requiring you to force pills on him and you don't have to worry about medication side effects. I was really skeptical about this when I first heard this, but it is true. Most kids even seem to find the brushing rather pleasant. This is just something to think about. You mentioned the volume levels and some other things like the son always having to run around wildly, etc... that made me think he might have sensory issues. An Occupational Therapy evaluation for Sensory Integration Disorder (SID) would be able to give you a lot of great information. I would get a private evaluation done and would not rely on the school district. You truly get what you pay for. Plus the school occupational therapist would only look at how his issues would impact his time at school, not his whole life. You would not get the information that you truly need. Once you have the info from the private evaluation, you can get sensory breaks build into his day at school if this is needed. This would be time for him to do some activities to help deal with however these issues are impacting his education. Part of his problems at home could be because he spends so much effort working so hard to sit still and pay attention at school. he just has nothing left to use to control himself when he gets home. Again, these are just my thoughts, and what I would do if I had this sort of problem. Whatever you can do, you have my support! [/QUOTE]
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