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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember1" data-source="post: 754268" data-attributes="member: 23706"><p>It seems as if the more we do the less Kay tries.</p><p></p><p>Kay actually found a way to be homeless without our throwing money at her. Now I don't know where she is getting gas money etc. But Lee worked until they left for California.</p><p></p><p>Maybe they actually had to....SAVE!</p><p></p><p>Or maybe they are/were involved in some illegal ways to earn money.</p><p></p><p>Either way, they had to figure out how to get enough gas and food to drive far far away to California. Without us. And they have left in the camper so they found a way. It may not be my way. It may have been a very bad way. But it could have been a NOT illegal way too. They did it themselves.</p><p></p><p>I don't like that Lee and Kay will be living in a camper. But so far it runs and it's shelter that is bigger and better than a box. Lee is a good mechanic. Can't tell you how often both his parents and us begged him to get a job as a mechanic. But he is very lazy. Still, he will be able to somewhat maintain the camper until it's inevitable final collapse.</p><p></p><p>Here's both a bright and solemn note. They did the research to find where you can indefinitely park this camper and decided that of all the places they could be homeless in a camper, California was best. Of course this is not good news to those who legally live in high rent apartments or have homes in the area. I have read about the SF poop patrol (shudder). </p><p></p><p>I still feel a semi glimmer of hope because they will have to be on their own. We are very far away now. I also hope that they start to like not having Jaden around. He does sadly cry for his inept parents but he is getting love and support for the first time in his life. I love this brave little man to the stars. He doesn't need to live in a camper.</p><p></p><p>So.....the point of this?</p><p></p><p>Well, these adults do not want to follow society's rules or work hard. But Kay at least is finding out how to live in a lifestyle she won't give up. I suspect Lee and Kay will become very savvy at getting government benefits, something Kay once scoffed at. And this is good because unless Lee and Kay decide to get off the pot farm in their heads and work at a sustainable job, they will need to keep their benefits. The silly pride will dissapate and common sense will have to kick in. They NEED benefits. Maybe Kay would qualify for SSI. Who knows?</p><p></p><p>I think about what I know and have learned about epigenetics. Is that Kay's problem? We don't know her ancestors trauma. But then my husband and kids are pat black and have slavery going on and none of them are so steeped in trauma. Why? One more thing I can't know. Those annoying X factors. </p><p></p><p>I lean heavily on God to please guide Kay to a better path. Only He knows what she needs to learn here. Only He can help her. I hope she hears. </p><p></p><p>I know I can't help her. Husband can't. Nobody will, on either side of the family. We had Lee's folks over to see Jaden last Sunday and we had a long talk.</p><p></p><p>Have a blessed day, all.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember1, post: 754268, member: 23706"] It seems as if the more we do the less Kay tries. Kay actually found a way to be homeless without our throwing money at her. Now I don't know where she is getting gas money etc. But Lee worked until they left for California. Maybe they actually had to....SAVE! Or maybe they are/were involved in some illegal ways to earn money. Either way, they had to figure out how to get enough gas and food to drive far far away to California. Without us. And they have left in the camper so they found a way. It may not be my way. It may have been a very bad way. But it could have been a NOT illegal way too. They did it themselves. I don't like that Lee and Kay will be living in a camper. But so far it runs and it's shelter that is bigger and better than a box. Lee is a good mechanic. Can't tell you how often both his parents and us begged him to get a job as a mechanic. But he is very lazy. Still, he will be able to somewhat maintain the camper until it's inevitable final collapse. Here's both a bright and solemn note. They did the research to find where you can indefinitely park this camper and decided that of all the places they could be homeless in a camper, California was best. Of course this is not good news to those who legally live in high rent apartments or have homes in the area. I have read about the SF poop patrol (shudder). I still feel a semi glimmer of hope because they will have to be on their own. We are very far away now. I also hope that they start to like not having Jaden around. He does sadly cry for his inept parents but he is getting love and support for the first time in his life. I love this brave little man to the stars. He doesn't need to live in a camper. So.....the point of this? Well, these adults do not want to follow society's rules or work hard. But Kay at least is finding out how to live in a lifestyle she won't give up. I suspect Lee and Kay will become very savvy at getting government benefits, something Kay once scoffed at. And this is good because unless Lee and Kay decide to get off the pot farm in their heads and work at a sustainable job, they will need to keep their benefits. The silly pride will dissapate and common sense will have to kick in. They NEED benefits. Maybe Kay would qualify for SSI. Who knows? I think about what I know and have learned about epigenetics. Is that Kay's problem? We don't know her ancestors trauma. But then my husband and kids are pat black and have slavery going on and none of them are so steeped in trauma. Why? One more thing I can't know. Those annoying X factors. I lean heavily on God to please guide Kay to a better path. Only He knows what she needs to learn here. Only He can help her. I hope she hears. I know I can't help her. Husband can't. Nobody will, on either side of the family. We had Lee's folks over to see Jaden last Sunday and we had a long talk. Have a blessed day, all. [/QUOTE]
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