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<blockquote data-quote="LittleDudesMom" data-source="post: 595144" data-attributes="member: 805"><p><span style="font-family: 'comic sans ms'"><span style="font-size: 12px">It's human sexuality for a reason - we are human, we are going to have sex. Teenage boys and raging hormones are the ultimate. Sex experts will tell you that boys between the ages of 13 and 18 masturbate on an average of 3 times per day! - although it's the higher number in the younger age range.</span></span></p><p><span style="font-family: 'comic sans ms'"><span style="font-size: 12px"></span></span></p><p><span style="font-family: 'comic sans ms'"><span style="font-size: 12px">As the "sole" parent (meaning the only parent interested in having the conversation) of a young male, we talked about it from pretty early on. When it came time to offer the condoms, it was not uncomfortable. I happen to have a very old and dear friend who actually teaches teachers in my state to teach sex ed and also volunteers at a local urban clinic. He brought me a "brown paper bag" filled with different types of condoms to give to difficult child.</span></span></p><p><span style="font-family: 'comic sans ms'"><span style="font-size: 12px"></span></span></p><p><span style="font-family: 'comic sans ms'"><span style="font-size: 12px">All I told him was (and don't read this if you embarass easily) - look, B asked if it was ok to send this to you and I told him it was. I'm giving you this bag so you can see what options are out there in condoms. In the privacy of your own room it's a good idea to practice because you have two choices when comes to using them during sex the first time - knowing how to put it on properly and having no idea what you are doing. This is not my permission to go out and become sexually active - this is my way of making sure you are informed and safe. A couple simple rules - always check the expiration date, never tear it open with your teeth like you see in the movies, it could put a hole in the condom, and make sure you pull out before you get soft to prevent the condom slipping off.</span></span></p><p><span style="font-family: 'comic sans ms'"><span style="font-size: 12px"></span></span></p><p><span style="font-family: 'comic sans ms'"><span style="font-size: 12px">That was it. Then we just moved on. I think the key with this stuff (for those of you with younger kids) is to make sure you have the conversation about sex, your values, etc., beginning when they are young and you can give them "just enough" information and then continue from there. In that way, you both are comfortable with the conversation. Really, these days it can be a life saver and shouldn't be something we are skittish with. It's a natural part of life....</span></span></p><p><span style="font-family: 'comic sans ms'"><span style="font-size: 12px"></span></span></p><p><span style="font-family: 'comic sans ms'"><span style="font-size: 12px">Sharon</span></span></p><p><span style="font-family: 'comic sans ms'"><span style="font-size: 12px"></span></span></p><p><span style="font-family: 'comic sans ms'"><span style="font-size: 12px">P.S. - Terry, I agree - no more blankets!!!! I also agree that you should speak to both of them (note I didn't say confront) and let them know you found the notebook. I think the worse thing we can do is treat this as being abnormal. It's a normal part of growing up - we just have to guide them into a respectful and responsible attitude towards sex.</span></span></p><p><span style="font-family: 'comic sans ms'"><span style="font-size: 12px"></span></span></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="LittleDudesMom, post: 595144, member: 805"] [FONT=comic sans ms][SIZE=3]It's human sexuality for a reason - we are human, we are going to have sex. Teenage boys and raging hormones are the ultimate. Sex experts will tell you that boys between the ages of 13 and 18 masturbate on an average of 3 times per day! - although it's the higher number in the younger age range. As the "sole" parent (meaning the only parent interested in having the conversation) of a young male, we talked about it from pretty early on. When it came time to offer the condoms, it was not uncomfortable. I happen to have a very old and dear friend who actually teaches teachers in my state to teach sex ed and also volunteers at a local urban clinic. He brought me a "brown paper bag" filled with different types of condoms to give to difficult child. All I told him was (and don't read this if you embarass easily) - look, B asked if it was ok to send this to you and I told him it was. I'm giving you this bag so you can see what options are out there in condoms. In the privacy of your own room it's a good idea to practice because you have two choices when comes to using them during sex the first time - knowing how to put it on properly and having no idea what you are doing. This is not my permission to go out and become sexually active - this is my way of making sure you are informed and safe. A couple simple rules - always check the expiration date, never tear it open with your teeth like you see in the movies, it could put a hole in the condom, and make sure you pull out before you get soft to prevent the condom slipping off. That was it. Then we just moved on. I think the key with this stuff (for those of you with younger kids) is to make sure you have the conversation about sex, your values, etc., beginning when they are young and you can give them "just enough" information and then continue from there. In that way, you both are comfortable with the conversation. Really, these days it can be a life saver and shouldn't be something we are skittish with. It's a natural part of life.... Sharon P.S. - Terry, I agree - no more blankets!!!! I also agree that you should speak to both of them (note I didn't say confront) and let them know you found the notebook. I think the worse thing we can do is treat this as being abnormal. It's a normal part of growing up - we just have to guide them into a respectful and responsible attitude towards sex. [/SIZE][/FONT] [/QUOTE]
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