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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 400773" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>In some areas they can keep you out of IEPs and psychiatric decisions far younger than age 18. here they can attend IEPs at age 14 and cannot override a parental decision until after age 18 and graduation of high school if they turn 18 during their senior year. Even if you are 18 you can't call yourself in sick, write a note to get out of something, etc.... unless you have attended 4 years of high school and are not living with or financially supported by your parents. It can become a problem for foster kids who are often kicked out at age 18, so our foster services can extend until graduation for those who are in high school with passing grades (not Fs). </p><p> </p><p>While ages 16-25 are potentially really bad, your difficult child is still 12. You said you were thinking about this for the younger one, right? At age 12 we were pretty sure that Wiz was going to end up in a psychiatric hospital or jail full time by age 18. I was completely sure he was going to be dangerous to the community and to women/girls especially. NOTHING was working and it seemed truly hopeless. It did NOT help to have the social worker responding to the abuse for CPS tell us that he was "the next Hannibal Lector" - nope, not even a teensy bit of help there. She actually brought up trying to have him committed to a locked psychiatric ward for the rest of his life as her "foreseeable future" for adult him. It was my worst nightmare - that as a mother I had brought a true monster into the world.</p><p> </p><p>Now he is 19 and things are WAY different - and have been for a long, long time. I have every confidence that the SW was not just wrong, she was NUTS. This is also a reason why things like conduct disorder are not supposed to be diagnosis'd until after age 18. </p><p> </p><p>Don't give up hope - he may make progress that you haven't dared to even dream he could make. It is good to know your options, and to put some serious thought into them, but don't let the cart get ahead of the horse and drag him down a road he might not otherwise travel.</p><p> </p><p>It is a shame that any parent has to worry about this, and I am sorry it is an issue that you must consider.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 400773, member: 1233"] In some areas they can keep you out of IEPs and psychiatric decisions far younger than age 18. here they can attend IEPs at age 14 and cannot override a parental decision until after age 18 and graduation of high school if they turn 18 during their senior year. Even if you are 18 you can't call yourself in sick, write a note to get out of something, etc.... unless you have attended 4 years of high school and are not living with or financially supported by your parents. It can become a problem for foster kids who are often kicked out at age 18, so our foster services can extend until graduation for those who are in high school with passing grades (not Fs). While ages 16-25 are potentially really bad, your difficult child is still 12. You said you were thinking about this for the younger one, right? At age 12 we were pretty sure that Wiz was going to end up in a psychiatric hospital or jail full time by age 18. I was completely sure he was going to be dangerous to the community and to women/girls especially. NOTHING was working and it seemed truly hopeless. It did NOT help to have the social worker responding to the abuse for CPS tell us that he was "the next Hannibal Lector" - nope, not even a teensy bit of help there. She actually brought up trying to have him committed to a locked psychiatric ward for the rest of his life as her "foreseeable future" for adult him. It was my worst nightmare - that as a mother I had brought a true monster into the world. Now he is 19 and things are WAY different - and have been for a long, long time. I have every confidence that the SW was not just wrong, she was NUTS. This is also a reason why things like conduct disorder are not supposed to be diagnosis'd until after age 18. Don't give up hope - he may make progress that you haven't dared to even dream he could make. It is good to know your options, and to put some serious thought into them, but don't let the cart get ahead of the horse and drag him down a road he might not otherwise travel. It is a shame that any parent has to worry about this, and I am sorry it is an issue that you must consider. [/QUOTE]
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