At an "older" age in a certain way I'm just now learning to cope with extended family since we just moved to the same city. Previously we just came in for holidays. So, I don't have a ton of experience ...but sympathize/empathize.
First thing I did (was planning on doing it anyway) was go less often on FB. But then recently, took FB off my phone. Loving it! It's inconvenient for me to get on FB. So, I go maybe once or twice a day tops and I go briefly!! I only personally post major events and it might include one, maybe two photos ...tops. And these are rare posts because I'm only posting rather significant things. I might save a recipe or something cute here and there. It's inconvenient for me to check out other people's pages so I don't. I texted a few CLOSE people and said I'm greatly reducing my time on FB. Please let me know if you post something like a major announcement because I could be very delayed in seeing it or even miss it.
Very generally I'm starting to learn its probably best with family:
1. Be polite
2. Not expect much
3. Not take things personally
4. Avoid gossip
Of course if someone is abusive, you'll need to speak up and possibly avoid them.
