Nomad, good advice.
Truth is, we are often more compatible outside our family of origin because we choose our spouse and friends. Many people are closer and able to share more with these chosen folks than our DNA collection. We are kind of given them, not based on a good fit.
I found unconditional love, aside from grandmother, with two close friends and my husband.
I moved away from DNA family.
Good luck interacting with your family of origin, Nomad. I wish you well. Sounds like you have a good plan.
I believe age is wisdom 