Oh...pigless! We are so happy to have you!
I have bad feelings about my entire family of origin, except for grandmother and brother, who is a good person. The family, the extent of those i knew, was small in number with big, negative personalities and they didnt like me. And it isnt like I didnt get along with others outside of family. I did.
Pig, I understand certain people triggering PTSD. You have to do what is right for you. I am sorry it came to that. My BFF died at age 50 of cancer. She was like a sister is supposed to be...we shared so much. Once she gave me a place to stay. I directed her through the adoption process...she did not know she could adopt any children because she had four boys...so she felt her dream of having a daughter could never come true as she had a hysterectomy. She thought you had to be childless or only have one child to adopt. She ended up adopting two daughters. This bonded us closely. We were a lot alike in almost every way. We spent hours talking in her kitchen with coffee while kids came and went. The memory brings me to tears.
We shared everything. We never had one fight. I could never replace her and miss her every day.