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<blockquote data-quote="Star*" data-source="post: 112884" data-attributes="member: 4964"><p>Daisy, </p><p></p><p>Sometimes when we are too close to a situation it's hard for us to separate emotion and logic. Not that you don't have both, it's just more fun to use emotion in the heat of the moment. </p><p></p><p>First of all - I guess I would like to know if you washed all those clothes - why would you put them in her room AGAIN? Bag them up, tie them shut, haul them to the basement. If she's out of clothes - she can earn them back. A few outfits at a time but enough clothes for 3 people - not realistic. Not to mention the time, water, detergent, softner, drying, electricity and your labor to do them. Go get them off her bed - leave a few outfits and haul the rest to the basement or good will. </p><p></p><p>I wouldn't even comment on the puppy again. Except to say - if you can't even do laundry I sure don't expect you to pick up poop - and I'm already doing your laundry. DISCUSSION CLOSED. NO DOG. She can't afford a car, but wants to drag another life into YOUR house and have you pay for vet bills, grooming, shots, then there is flea protection - or you could all live with fleas, and if it's outside then there is a house - and why anyone would leave a dog OUTSIDE in OHIO in the winter is beyond me. So tell her that she can have whatever she wants when she gets her own home, but as for you and yours? NO DOG. Not fair to an animal, not fair to you. </p><p></p><p>I'm sure Travis meant well and you can't ever get between a brother and a sister - so the fact that he slipped her $5.00 for cab fare would tell me she had to have SOME money - to add to the $5.00. And then again - THAT $5.00 could /should have gone to YOU for powder to wash her clothes and the babys. </p><p></p><p>I think you are too nice. You be as nice as you wanna be, and you're going to be a door mat for a long time. Call my son right now and ask him what happened the last time he threw clean clothes on the floor after I took the time to pick them up, sort, wash, dry, fold , hang - THEY GOT PUT INTO A GARBAGE BAG and stayed there. Dude wore the same outfit for 3 days to be stubborn and then BEGGED me for SOME of his clothes back - and my comment? THE OUTFIT that you have on? IS ON THE FLOOR - doesn't show me a dang thing. 2 days later - and after borrowing a friends outfit - he hung his stuff up. i think our kids have too much. Dude now is on NO clothes allowance and is being forced at the group home to keep his room clean and clothes hung up - the owner told him "BOY clothes don't belong on the floor - if they did you'd have to go to Walmart and search through piles to buy stuff. So hang it up." And most times except for a pair of pants or two - he does. They take clothes there too. </p><p></p><p>And the next time she decided to "use" the baby - I would have a plan established on what I would do - using your granddaughter to get what she wants isn't mature it's just wrong. Maybe someone else will have experience with grands and be able to help you with some ideas for her doing this. I'm so sorry for you and the baby - I think I would have told her 'GO NOW - and put her out and said when she was able to get a grip she could dress and take the baby- But anger isn't a behavior that needs to rub off on your grandkid OR that you need to handle daily 0r biweekly - </p><p></p><p>I'm just so sorry for you , you've got enough going. At her age she's supposed to be a help not a harpie. </p><p></p><p>Hugs</p><p>Star</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Star*, post: 112884, member: 4964"] Daisy, Sometimes when we are too close to a situation it's hard for us to separate emotion and logic. Not that you don't have both, it's just more fun to use emotion in the heat of the moment. First of all - I guess I would like to know if you washed all those clothes - why would you put them in her room AGAIN? Bag them up, tie them shut, haul them to the basement. If she's out of clothes - she can earn them back. A few outfits at a time but enough clothes for 3 people - not realistic. Not to mention the time, water, detergent, softner, drying, electricity and your labor to do them. Go get them off her bed - leave a few outfits and haul the rest to the basement or good will. I wouldn't even comment on the puppy again. Except to say - if you can't even do laundry I sure don't expect you to pick up poop - and I'm already doing your laundry. DISCUSSION CLOSED. NO DOG. She can't afford a car, but wants to drag another life into YOUR house and have you pay for vet bills, grooming, shots, then there is flea protection - or you could all live with fleas, and if it's outside then there is a house - and why anyone would leave a dog OUTSIDE in OHIO in the winter is beyond me. So tell her that she can have whatever she wants when she gets her own home, but as for you and yours? NO DOG. Not fair to an animal, not fair to you. I'm sure Travis meant well and you can't ever get between a brother and a sister - so the fact that he slipped her $5.00 for cab fare would tell me she had to have SOME money - to add to the $5.00. And then again - THAT $5.00 could /should have gone to YOU for powder to wash her clothes and the babys. I think you are too nice. You be as nice as you wanna be, and you're going to be a door mat for a long time. Call my son right now and ask him what happened the last time he threw clean clothes on the floor after I took the time to pick them up, sort, wash, dry, fold , hang - THEY GOT PUT INTO A GARBAGE BAG and stayed there. Dude wore the same outfit for 3 days to be stubborn and then BEGGED me for SOME of his clothes back - and my comment? THE OUTFIT that you have on? IS ON THE FLOOR - doesn't show me a dang thing. 2 days later - and after borrowing a friends outfit - he hung his stuff up. i think our kids have too much. Dude now is on NO clothes allowance and is being forced at the group home to keep his room clean and clothes hung up - the owner told him "BOY clothes don't belong on the floor - if they did you'd have to go to Walmart and search through piles to buy stuff. So hang it up." And most times except for a pair of pants or two - he does. They take clothes there too. And the next time she decided to "use" the baby - I would have a plan established on what I would do - using your granddaughter to get what she wants isn't mature it's just wrong. Maybe someone else will have experience with grands and be able to help you with some ideas for her doing this. I'm so sorry for you and the baby - I think I would have told her 'GO NOW - and put her out and said when she was able to get a grip she could dress and take the baby- But anger isn't a behavior that needs to rub off on your grandkid OR that you need to handle daily 0r biweekly - I'm just so sorry for you , you've got enough going. At her age she's supposed to be a help not a harpie. Hugs Star [/QUOTE]
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