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<blockquote data-quote="InsaneCdn" data-source="post: 493344" data-attributes="member: 11791"><p>Malika...</p><p></p><p>There's a wide spectrum of levels of GFGness - if you want to call it that - represented in the kids that bring parents to this board. I've gone back, sometimes, and read up on some of the background on some of these kids on the board... and there are many who, at J's age, were MUCH worse. So, you can't compare to those.</p><p></p><p>There's also a lot of shifting in knowledge, perceptions, tools, etc. over time. You are getting access to resources, help, ways of thinking, that didn't exist when my difficult child was J's age, and definitely didn't exist when some of these older difficult children were J's age. Even if you don't feel you have some of the resources that are slightly more common in North America, you have things like this forum. That puts you, and J, at an advantage. Just like it does any other 5 year old whose parents are seeking the right path for their own kids.</p><p></p><p>There is also concrete evidence that SOME of these marks, they may indeed grow out of, even without interventions etc. However, it makes sense that anything that we as parents can do to teach better skills, reduce secondary damage, and keep a good bond with our kids, <em>has to be</em> beneficial both in the short run and in the long run. In other words, you may never find all the answers, but every answer you find makes J's future that much more hopeful.</p><p></p><p>Trust me. If there was hope for my GFGbro (and that's going back a long ways)... there's hope for J. Hope in the short run, as well as in the long run.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="InsaneCdn, post: 493344, member: 11791"] Malika... There's a wide spectrum of levels of GFGness - if you want to call it that - represented in the kids that bring parents to this board. I've gone back, sometimes, and read up on some of the background on some of these kids on the board... and there are many who, at J's age, were MUCH worse. So, you can't compare to those. There's also a lot of shifting in knowledge, perceptions, tools, etc. over time. You are getting access to resources, help, ways of thinking, that didn't exist when my difficult child was J's age, and definitely didn't exist when some of these older difficult children were J's age. Even if you don't feel you have some of the resources that are slightly more common in North America, you have things like this forum. That puts you, and J, at an advantage. Just like it does any other 5 year old whose parents are seeking the right path for their own kids. There is also concrete evidence that SOME of these marks, they may indeed grow out of, even without interventions etc. However, it makes sense that anything that we as parents can do to teach better skills, reduce secondary damage, and keep a good bond with our kids, [I]has to be[/I] beneficial both in the short run and in the long run. In other words, you may never find all the answers, but every answer you find makes J's future that much more hopeful. Trust me. If there was hope for my GFGbro (and that's going back a long ways)... there's hope for J. Hope in the short run, as well as in the long run. [/QUOTE]
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