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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 493749" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>KTLC, this is for you.</p><p></p><p>We also hoped that Sonic would become "normal" as in his odd behaviors and differences would disappear. Much of it did, but he is eighteen now and not 100% "normal" as defined by most people. HOWEVER, *he* doesn't care. He is happy, even-tempered and good-natured. He keeps busy and will get help with things like his work and living. With his trouble multi-tasking and his anxiety, it is unlikely he will ever be able to get a competitive job (money-wise), but that does not mean he has to sit at home and vegetate, and he will not.</p><p></p><p>I would say he is 80% self-sufficient and needs a little bit of help. He can live alone one day, if he chooses, with government help, of course, to pay the rent. Not all of our kids will become totally independent or totally ok. In fact, probably most of them will not. Some will learn to compensate enough to get by. Some may be able to get by but will feel "safer" with continuing help. Some will end up great citizens. Some will end up in drugs or in jail. There is no magical formula to know how our kids will turn out.</p><p></p><p></p><p>I am willing to settle for a happy young man who needs a little assistance. I'm sure Sonic is fine in his own skin. To me, making our k ids know and accept who they are is VERY important...if we can raise happy, contented young adults with disabilities, we have done a great job. The disability is then secondary to the contenedness. Is that even a word? At any rate, there is nothing shameful about being different unless YOU feel it is shameful. I think it is very important we always accept our children's disabilities (not willful bad behavior, but the things they can not help). If we don't, how will they?</p><p></p><p>I don't know if this made sense, but I hope so. *I* know what I was trying to say...lol.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 493749, member: 1550"] KTLC, this is for you. We also hoped that Sonic would become "normal" as in his odd behaviors and differences would disappear. Much of it did, but he is eighteen now and not 100% "normal" as defined by most people. HOWEVER, *he* doesn't care. He is happy, even-tempered and good-natured. He keeps busy and will get help with things like his work and living. With his trouble multi-tasking and his anxiety, it is unlikely he will ever be able to get a competitive job (money-wise), but that does not mean he has to sit at home and vegetate, and he will not. I would say he is 80% self-sufficient and needs a little bit of help. He can live alone one day, if he chooses, with government help, of course, to pay the rent. Not all of our kids will become totally independent or totally ok. In fact, probably most of them will not. Some will learn to compensate enough to get by. Some may be able to get by but will feel "safer" with continuing help. Some will end up great citizens. Some will end up in drugs or in jail. There is no magical formula to know how our kids will turn out. I am willing to settle for a happy young man who needs a little assistance. I'm sure Sonic is fine in his own skin. To me, making our k ids know and accept who they are is VERY important...if we can raise happy, contented young adults with disabilities, we have done a great job. The disability is then secondary to the contenedness. Is that even a word? At any rate, there is nothing shameful about being different unless YOU feel it is shameful. I think it is very important we always accept our children's disabilities (not willful bad behavior, but the things they can not help). If we don't, how will they? I don't know if this made sense, but I hope so. *I* know what I was trying to say...lol. [/QUOTE]
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