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<blockquote data-quote="zaftigmama" data-source="post: 493760" data-attributes="member: 13038"><p>I feel you, Malika--our boys were born very early (27 weeks) and since their birth we've frequently moved between "everything's going to be fine!" to "everything is horrible!" and back again (they're six years old, about the same as your son).</p><p></p><p>So much depends on your perspective and expectations. Of course my children aren't typical six year olds--but I can acknowledge where there's been progress--our oppositional difficult child (Brownie) is still refusing to do almost anything we (or any other adult) asks him to do, rages, etc--but he has been pooping on his own for the last several weeks (he usually holds it to the point he's soiling himself, we need to administer an enema, etc)--so we're happy about that. He's also eating apple slices and yogurt--a departure from his "cat food" diet (anything crunchy). He gets along great with other kids--of course, the adult thing is a MAJOR issue--but a strength is a strength!</p><p></p><p>I feel for Brownie. His oppositional nature keeps him from doing things he would like to do. He'd like to play soccer, but can't take any direction from a coach. There were things he loved about his homeschool nature program--like identifying leaves and learning how to build shelters--but he couldn't stay because any demand placed on him would make him tantrum. This can't feel good. It can't feel good to rage and be out of control. It can't feel good to be incapable of coping with even the mildest frustration. So it's my job to make sure that he gets the help he needs so he can be the best Brownie he can be--whatever that looks like. </p><p></p><p>Anyway--you're not alone. Hope is not a bad thing to have!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="zaftigmama, post: 493760, member: 13038"] I feel you, Malika--our boys were born very early (27 weeks) and since their birth we've frequently moved between "everything's going to be fine!" to "everything is horrible!" and back again (they're six years old, about the same as your son). So much depends on your perspective and expectations. Of course my children aren't typical six year olds--but I can acknowledge where there's been progress--our oppositional difficult child (Brownie) is still refusing to do almost anything we (or any other adult) asks him to do, rages, etc--but he has been pooping on his own for the last several weeks (he usually holds it to the point he's soiling himself, we need to administer an enema, etc)--so we're happy about that. He's also eating apple slices and yogurt--a departure from his "cat food" diet (anything crunchy). He gets along great with other kids--of course, the adult thing is a MAJOR issue--but a strength is a strength! I feel for Brownie. His oppositional nature keeps him from doing things he would like to do. He'd like to play soccer, but can't take any direction from a coach. There were things he loved about his homeschool nature program--like identifying leaves and learning how to build shelters--but he couldn't stay because any demand placed on him would make him tantrum. This can't feel good. It can't feel good to rage and be out of control. It can't feel good to be incapable of coping with even the mildest frustration. So it's my job to make sure that he gets the help he needs so he can be the best Brownie he can be--whatever that looks like. Anyway--you're not alone. Hope is not a bad thing to have! [/QUOTE]
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