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<blockquote data-quote="DaisyFace" data-source="post: 227053" data-attributes="member: 6546"><p>I used to feel the same way as you....naively expecting others to do right by my family or my children...and ending up feeling hurt after things didn't go so well. </p><p> </p><p>Eventually, I learned that it was just easier to turn the tables and politely decline invitations from folks who usually disappoint me. </p><p> </p><p>Instead of explaining, bargaining, or otherwise trying to talk them into the behavior you would hope for...simply arrange to visit with these folks on your terms. Invite <em>them</em> to attend something instead. As hostess, you can specify whether gifts would even be appropriate! Why not emphasize the fact that merely getting together at Christmastime is present enough? Plan an outing...such as going out to eat...or watching a holiday parade...or attending a holiday craft fair. Have a good time...and when it's over--it's OVER! As in <em>"Oh that was a lovely meal...thanks for coming...Merry Christmas and Good Night!".</em></p><p> </p><p>It is SO much less stressful...especially if you can arrange something that does not leave a mess for you to clean up afterwards (either physically or emotionally). Personally, we like to take people out to breakfast. Breakfast is very casual...it does not take up the whole afternoon...and the kids absolutely LOVE it!</p><p> </p><p><img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/redface.png" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":redface:" title="redface :redface:" data-shortname=":redface:" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DaisyFace, post: 227053, member: 6546"] I used to feel the same way as you....naively expecting others to do right by my family or my children...and ending up feeling hurt after things didn't go so well. Eventually, I learned that it was just easier to turn the tables and politely decline invitations from folks who usually disappoint me. Instead of explaining, bargaining, or otherwise trying to talk them into the behavior you would hope for...simply arrange to visit with these folks on your terms. Invite [I]them[/I] to attend something instead. As hostess, you can specify whether gifts would even be appropriate! Why not emphasize the fact that merely getting together at Christmastime is present enough? Plan an outing...such as going out to eat...or watching a holiday parade...or attending a holiday craft fair. Have a good time...and when it's over--it's OVER! As in [I]"Oh that was a lovely meal...thanks for coming...Merry Christmas and Good Night!".[/I] It is SO much less stressful...especially if you can arrange something that does not leave a mess for you to clean up afterwards (either physically or emotionally). Personally, we like to take people out to breakfast. Breakfast is very casual...it does not take up the whole afternoon...and the kids absolutely LOVE it! :blushing: [/QUOTE]
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