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<blockquote data-quote="JJJ" data-source="post: 374161" data-attributes="member: 1169"><p>I guess that would depend on your definition of forever. </p><p></p><p>1. She will never be allowed to live here again.</p><p>2. She will not be allowed to see the younger children until we feel they are capable of protecting themselves, not only physically but mentally from her as well. Difficult for adults, near impossible for children. </p><p></p><p>To be honest, we will never feel safe around her again. We do not anticipate a close relationship once she reaches adulthood. We do plan on maintaining a way for her to contact us but still protect us from her showing up unexpectedly. </p><p></p><p>The sad thing is that she can maintain in Residential Treatment Center (RTC) and on short visits with us so we do sometimes get lulled into a sense of 'maybe we can make this work' but then she does something that shocks and horrifies and reminds us why 'never' has to be.</p><p></p><p>I am still amazed that you allowed your difficult child to return home after he pulled a knife on you. I know you did it to protect him from your brother but to be honest, I don't think I could have done it. Maybe it is because the bond between us wasn't firmly established before she started attacking us. She lived here 6-7 years and only about 3-4 of them without significant violence. Eeyore was also violent for a brief time but his was rooted in desperate panic and he was truly remorseful after his episodes. She never was. That is the key difference in why she is gone and Eeyore is still here and no longer dangerous.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="JJJ, post: 374161, member: 1169"] I guess that would depend on your definition of forever. 1. She will never be allowed to live here again. 2. She will not be allowed to see the younger children until we feel they are capable of protecting themselves, not only physically but mentally from her as well. Difficult for adults, near impossible for children. To be honest, we will never feel safe around her again. We do not anticipate a close relationship once she reaches adulthood. We do plan on maintaining a way for her to contact us but still protect us from her showing up unexpectedly. The sad thing is that she can maintain in Residential Treatment Center (RTC) and on short visits with us so we do sometimes get lulled into a sense of 'maybe we can make this work' but then she does something that shocks and horrifies and reminds us why 'never' has to be. I am still amazed that you allowed your difficult child to return home after he pulled a knife on you. I know you did it to protect him from your brother but to be honest, I don't think I could have done it. Maybe it is because the bond between us wasn't firmly established before she started attacking us. She lived here 6-7 years and only about 3-4 of them without significant violence. Eeyore was also violent for a brief time but his was rooted in desperate panic and he was truly remorseful after his episodes. She never was. That is the key difference in why she is gone and Eeyore is still here and no longer dangerous. [/QUOTE]
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