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<blockquote data-quote="klmno" data-source="post: 374163" data-attributes="member: 3699"><p>Correct- whether due to PO interference or not, this was the only option available. If difficult child had gotten to go to a Residential Treatment Center (RTC) or found some other avenue for him and us to get intensive therapy before returning home, I think he would have had a real chance that is probably hopeless at this point. He is my bio child- I still remember him as a non-difficult child baby and young boy. Even though I clearly see that he did become (and still is) a difficult child, I feel a sense of responsibility that might not be as strong in adoptive families- I'm just not sure because I have never walked in those shoes. I'm not saying adoptive parents aren't responsible, but that they know they aren't responsible for the child becoming a difficult child in most cases and many bio parents can't feel that. We tend to feel we must have messed our kid up somehow or at least should have done things differently and feel a guilt that we <em>might</em> not feel as strongly if we were an adoptive parent. Again, I don't know.</p><p></p><p>And with my son, profs have said in the past that part of his problem is feeling abandoned by his father. The last thing I wanted to do was add to that by abandoning him, too.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="klmno, post: 374163, member: 3699"] Correct- whether due to PO interference or not, this was the only option available. If difficult child had gotten to go to a Residential Treatment Center (RTC) or found some other avenue for him and us to get intensive therapy before returning home, I think he would have had a real chance that is probably hopeless at this point. He is my bio child- I still remember him as a non-difficult child baby and young boy. Even though I clearly see that he did become (and still is) a difficult child, I feel a sense of responsibility that might not be as strong in adoptive families- I'm just not sure because I have never walked in those shoes. I'm not saying adoptive parents aren't responsible, but that they know they aren't responsible for the child becoming a difficult child in most cases and many bio parents can't feel that. We tend to feel we must have messed our kid up somehow or at least should have done things differently and feel a guilt that we [I]might[/I] not feel as strongly if we were an adoptive parent. Again, I don't know. And with my son, profs have said in the past that part of his problem is feeling abandoned by his father. The last thing I wanted to do was add to that by abandoning him, too. [/QUOTE]
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