Forums
New posts
Search forums
What's new
New posts
New profile posts
Latest activity
Internet Search
Members
Current visitors
New profile posts
Search profile posts
Log in
Register
What's new
Search
Search
Search titles only
By:
New posts
Search forums
Menu
Log in
Register
Install the app
Install
Forums
Parent Support Forums
Parent Emeritus
***Family update***
JavaScript is disabled. For a better experience, please enable JavaScript in your browser before proceeding.
You are using an out of date browser. It may not display this or other websites correctly.
You should upgrade or use an
alternative browser
.
Reply to thread
Message
<blockquote data-quote="Nomad" data-source="post: 269731"><p>Our easy child son graduated with- honors from college and moved out of the city. Sniff. We are so proud. Knock on wood...crossing myself...we are wishing him all good things.</p><p> </p><p>difficult child...hmmm</p><p> </p><p>Been a very weird few months. She was hanging around a guy who is an alcoholic and still might be...but she does seem to be cutting back her time with him. We had a couple of difficult experiences....difficult child met with- consequences. We all detached. She went to an Al Anon mtg and cried her eyes out. However, she refuses to go back. It is unclear why. However, at least we think it left an imprint...just the one mtg...it hit her hard.</p><p> </p><p>She moved in to a nice apt. with another adopted young lady. They are pooling their money. She likes this girl's mom. It's been somewhat complicated, but better than previous situations.</p><p> </p><p>We have cut her off financiall...big change. Previously, she received a small allowance. I wanted to end this whwen she turned 21...husband dragged his feet. Oh well...at least that has been corrected.</p><p> </p><p>She turned 21 several months ago and it was my every intention to do this at that time. I'm glad husband is seeing it differently now.</p><p> </p><p>We've been going to FA mtgs and since then, husband changed his mind.</p><p> </p><p>Today, she asked for work to do to earn a little money. husband okayed it. She worked 1 hour. She did a good job. She was paid. She was grateful and said thank you.</p><p> </p><p>We are discussing the possibility of buying for her absolute necessities...toothpaste, tampons, soap, toilet paper and shampoo. If we do purchase these things, we would limit it to these things only and then give her the actual items (no money). Of course, if she is disrespectful, that would end in a hurry. And husband and I are willing <strong>for now</strong> to foot the bill for medical costs and prescriptions. It ends there.</p><p> </p><p>So far, she is accepting of the changes and respectful. It's hard to say...all very very new. But there are indications of better effort on her part. Whew!</p><p> </p><p>I personally have been very busy and productive...missing my son...but very happy and grateful for progresses made.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nomad, post: 269731"] Our easy child son graduated with- honors from college and moved out of the city. Sniff. We are so proud. Knock on wood...crossing myself...we are wishing him all good things. difficult child...hmmm Been a very weird few months. She was hanging around a guy who is an alcoholic and still might be...but she does seem to be cutting back her time with him. We had a couple of difficult experiences....difficult child met with- consequences. We all detached. She went to an Al Anon mtg and cried her eyes out. However, she refuses to go back. It is unclear why. However, at least we think it left an imprint...just the one mtg...it hit her hard. She moved in to a nice apt. with another adopted young lady. They are pooling their money. She likes this girl's mom. It's been somewhat complicated, but better than previous situations. We have cut her off financiall...big change. Previously, she received a small allowance. I wanted to end this whwen she turned 21...husband dragged his feet. Oh well...at least that has been corrected. She turned 21 several months ago and it was my every intention to do this at that time. I'm glad husband is seeing it differently now. We've been going to FA mtgs and since then, husband changed his mind. Today, she asked for work to do to earn a little money. husband okayed it. She worked 1 hour. She did a good job. She was paid. She was grateful and said thank you. We are discussing the possibility of buying for her absolute necessities...toothpaste, tampons, soap, toilet paper and shampoo. If we do purchase these things, we would limit it to these things only and then give her the actual items (no money). Of course, if she is disrespectful, that would end in a hurry. And husband and I are willing [B]for now[/B] to foot the bill for medical costs and prescriptions. It ends there. So far, she is accepting of the changes and respectful. It's hard to say...all very very new. But there are indications of better effort on her part. Whew! I personally have been very busy and productive...missing my son...but very happy and grateful for progresses made. [/QUOTE]
Insert quotes…
Verification
Post reply
Forums
Parent Support Forums
Parent Emeritus
***Family update***
Top