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<blockquote data-quote="Malika" data-source="post: 543689" data-attributes="member: 11227"><p>Not sure about that, TeDo. The other boy is 8 to J's 5 and doesn't seem the particularly timid follower kind. Seems more like the delightful scamp kind. Only time I've seen him with his mother before (without J) she was also getting cross with him so it must be partly something in their dynamic.</p><p>This is part of my confusion. I don't think the other boy was "led astray" by J from what I saw of them together - they are both what kindly souls would call little rascal and less kindly ones something less affectionate - and the other boy isn't hyperactive. But I could quite accept that J finds it harder to obey rules and listen to what people want him to do than this other boy. So do I make an issue of it, when it doesn't mean much to most people here anyway? </p><p>I know it's a bit doomed my saying to J "don't play fight" because it's so much a part of how he plays with boys... I could try and have a word with the director about it tomorrow. But this is all so much out of their culture, making exceptions for kids with differences...</p><p>And I'm just confused about what they/she were saying to me. She seemed really upset, but when I spoke about it, she just kept saying "no, no, it's not important, it's nothing, just boys' stuff, we've seen far worse" - and she doesn't seem the kind to mince words or not want to upset people. Same thing with the guy... I really don't know what the message was supposed to be.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Malika, post: 543689, member: 11227"] Not sure about that, TeDo. The other boy is 8 to J's 5 and doesn't seem the particularly timid follower kind. Seems more like the delightful scamp kind. Only time I've seen him with his mother before (without J) she was also getting cross with him so it must be partly something in their dynamic. This is part of my confusion. I don't think the other boy was "led astray" by J from what I saw of them together - they are both what kindly souls would call little rascal and less kindly ones something less affectionate - and the other boy isn't hyperactive. But I could quite accept that J finds it harder to obey rules and listen to what people want him to do than this other boy. So do I make an issue of it, when it doesn't mean much to most people here anyway? I know it's a bit doomed my saying to J "don't play fight" because it's so much a part of how he plays with boys... I could try and have a word with the director about it tomorrow. But this is all so much out of their culture, making exceptions for kids with differences... And I'm just confused about what they/she were saying to me. She seemed really upset, but when I spoke about it, she just kept saying "no, no, it's not important, it's nothing, just boys' stuff, we've seen far worse" - and she doesn't seem the kind to mince words or not want to upset people. Same thing with the guy... I really don't know what the message was supposed to be. [/QUOTE]
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