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<blockquote data-quote="SuZir" data-source="post: 543768" data-attributes="member: 14557"><p>Sounds even more as just a bad day from everyone. When adults are stressed and tired they (we) tend to be stricter with kids and allow less rougher play than then they are in good mood. Rules are seldom totally same all the time. For more disabled kids they should be and they get confused when rules vary, but I think J is high functioning enough that he will learn to navigate different situations and moods and how rules change. And that is an important skill also in adult life. When someone is already cross with you or you have been lately in trouble it is an important skill to know you should tread carefully and do your absolute best until you are back on their good graces. That was something my difficult child had hard time to learn but to be honest I'm happy that he had to keep trying to get it instead of we being able to change environment so that rules would had been totally same all the time. It would had made his childhood easier, but it would had ill prepared him to adulthood there that skill is very important, especially when you are grating on people in authority as much as my difficult child is.</p><p></p><p>In my experience it really is easy to get caught to your child's differences even when that particular thing in fact is totally typical. I have found it better to take a step back and wait for little. Often situations solve themselves or people involved in situation do the solving and it is not needed to make bigger thing out of it. Of course it can also be that you end up missing something huge and then regret that rest of your life (like I probably will end up doing with bullying my difficult child went through.) So no easy answers. <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/emoticons/sigh.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":sigh:" title="sigh :sigh:" data-shortname=":sigh:" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SuZir, post: 543768, member: 14557"] Sounds even more as just a bad day from everyone. When adults are stressed and tired they (we) tend to be stricter with kids and allow less rougher play than then they are in good mood. Rules are seldom totally same all the time. For more disabled kids they should be and they get confused when rules vary, but I think J is high functioning enough that he will learn to navigate different situations and moods and how rules change. And that is an important skill also in adult life. When someone is already cross with you or you have been lately in trouble it is an important skill to know you should tread carefully and do your absolute best until you are back on their good graces. That was something my difficult child had hard time to learn but to be honest I'm happy that he had to keep trying to get it instead of we being able to change environment so that rules would had been totally same all the time. It would had made his childhood easier, but it would had ill prepared him to adulthood there that skill is very important, especially when you are grating on people in authority as much as my difficult child is. In my experience it really is easy to get caught to your child's differences even when that particular thing in fact is totally typical. I have found it better to take a step back and wait for little. Often situations solve themselves or people involved in situation do the solving and it is not needed to make bigger thing out of it. Of course it can also be that you end up missing something huge and then regret that rest of your life (like I probably will end up doing with bullying my difficult child went through.) So no easy answers. :sigh: [/QUOTE]
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