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<blockquote data-quote="Hound dog" data-source="post: 515265" data-attributes="member: 84"><p>My biodad walked out before I was born. He and my mom were divorced shortly after my birth. We rarely saw him, although she'd encourage him to come to visit for photos if nothing else. Those visits were few and far between, after I was about 9 months old those stopped too. (I'm the youngest of 5) He married his mistress, a real major difficult child, and the mother of the half sister that is only 6 wks younger than me and the brother that is a year younger than me. Divorced her, married her again.......no one can possibly count the number of other females that floated in and out of his life. He divorced the mistress yet lived with her another 20 yrs........until he finally figured out she was indeed a major nut job. Several years down the road met his last wife, fantastic lady.......so much so I have no idea how he managed to snag her. I can count seeing him during childhood on one hand......and it's about 3 times that I can actually recall. He never paid a dime of child support even after going to prison for a year due to it. He just moved out of state when he got out. Bros did flock to him as teens, as sometimes happen with boys........they formed somewhat of a relationship with him. Us girls could've cared less. Once he married the great lady........we're all grown and have kids. Suddenly he wants a relationship with us girls too. We're not stupid, we know it has more to do with the great new wife than us, but we give him the benefit of doubt. That lasted as long as that marriage, not suprising. Although my biodad did come through for me once when I really needed him......also due to the great wife, not really him. </p><p></p><p>Now? He's alone in a nursing home in Indy. As far as I know, no one calls or visits or writes. Heck, I don't even know where he is or what the nursing home is called, nor do I care to find out. When he passes I will go to his funeral out of respect, period.</p><p></p><p>You reap what you sew. Do I feel sorry for him? Yeah, I suppose I do. It's sad to think that the only relationships someone could manage throughout their life were superficial ones.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Hound dog, post: 515265, member: 84"] My biodad walked out before I was born. He and my mom were divorced shortly after my birth. We rarely saw him, although she'd encourage him to come to visit for photos if nothing else. Those visits were few and far between, after I was about 9 months old those stopped too. (I'm the youngest of 5) He married his mistress, a real major difficult child, and the mother of the half sister that is only 6 wks younger than me and the brother that is a year younger than me. Divorced her, married her again.......no one can possibly count the number of other females that floated in and out of his life. He divorced the mistress yet lived with her another 20 yrs........until he finally figured out she was indeed a major nut job. Several years down the road met his last wife, fantastic lady.......so much so I have no idea how he managed to snag her. I can count seeing him during childhood on one hand......and it's about 3 times that I can actually recall. He never paid a dime of child support even after going to prison for a year due to it. He just moved out of state when he got out. Bros did flock to him as teens, as sometimes happen with boys........they formed somewhat of a relationship with him. Us girls could've cared less. Once he married the great lady........we're all grown and have kids. Suddenly he wants a relationship with us girls too. We're not stupid, we know it has more to do with the great new wife than us, but we give him the benefit of doubt. That lasted as long as that marriage, not suprising. Although my biodad did come through for me once when I really needed him......also due to the great wife, not really him. Now? He's alone in a nursing home in Indy. As far as I know, no one calls or visits or writes. Heck, I don't even know where he is or what the nursing home is called, nor do I care to find out. When he passes I will go to his funeral out of respect, period. You reap what you sew. Do I feel sorry for him? Yeah, I suppose I do. It's sad to think that the only relationships someone could manage throughout their life were superficial ones. [/QUOTE]
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