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<blockquote data-quote="Nomad" data-source="post: 248458"><p>Star...that was soooo good. </p><p> </p><p>I have been struggling asking myself this question as well. For me...not really jealousy...but a twinge of bitterness.</p><p> </p><p>I do see some irony in that I had to take mental health tests to adopt and I adopted a child who is mentally ill. I had a career and financial security. I had some concerns about my health, but with good health and self care was doing well. </p><p> </p><p>After difficult child came, I lost my career, my financial security and my health worsened. Additionally, it was hard on my marriage and at times hard for me to care for my other child. I adopted with pure love in my heart and was fully prepared...as best as a person could be. I waited several years to have my first child (bio) and then a few more to have my second (adopted). Why? So that I could save money and make sure everything was in its place.</p><p> </p><p>After twenty very long, difficult and lonely years and help from professionals (paid for by myself and husband), things are much better. I wish more help had been provided, but am very grateful for the help received. I have learned so much and am in a good place today.</p><p> </p><p>However, this background likely at least subconscioiusly adds fuel to a fire....</p><p> </p><p>Most of us like to think that when we help someone...either overtly with our time or by a direct donation or even with taxpayer dollars...that we are helping someone who for no fault of their own are hurting. Or who simply made a bad decision, but there was no ill intent.</p><p> </p><p>Few people totally trust Nadia's motives. We question her intent. She seems to expect much. She seems to not understand that CPS would have concerns. It feels like entitlement. </p><p> </p><p>If I/we try to look at it with-o our own personal perspectives interferring, I think the lives of those babies are what is most important.</p><p> </p><p>The trouble is...the answer to that is likely controversial. Should they be with Octo Mom? Should they be adopted? Should some sort of in between solution be made...like the Truman Show?</p><p> </p><p>Somehow for society not to learn something from this to me seems wrong. The entire ordeal is disturbing.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nomad, post: 248458"] Star...that was soooo good. I have been struggling asking myself this question as well. For me...not really jealousy...but a twinge of bitterness. I do see some irony in that I had to take mental health tests to adopt and I adopted a child who is mentally ill. I had a career and financial security. I had some concerns about my health, but with good health and self care was doing well. After difficult child came, I lost my career, my financial security and my health worsened. Additionally, it was hard on my marriage and at times hard for me to care for my other child. I adopted with pure love in my heart and was fully prepared...as best as a person could be. I waited several years to have my first child (bio) and then a few more to have my second (adopted). Why? So that I could save money and make sure everything was in its place. After twenty very long, difficult and lonely years and help from professionals (paid for by myself and husband), things are much better. I wish more help had been provided, but am very grateful for the help received. I have learned so much and am in a good place today. However, this background likely at least subconscioiusly adds fuel to a fire.... Most of us like to think that when we help someone...either overtly with our time or by a direct donation or even with taxpayer dollars...that we are helping someone who for no fault of their own are hurting. Or who simply made a bad decision, but there was no ill intent. Few people totally trust Nadia's motives. We question her intent. She seems to expect much. She seems to not understand that CPS would have concerns. It feels like entitlement. If I/we try to look at it with-o our own personal perspectives interferring, I think the lives of those babies are what is most important. The trouble is...the answer to that is likely controversial. Should they be with Octo Mom? Should they be adopted? Should some sort of in between solution be made...like the Truman Show? Somehow for society not to learn something from this to me seems wrong. The entire ordeal is disturbing. [/QUOTE]
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