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<blockquote data-quote="TerryJ2" data-source="post: 112673" data-attributes="member: 3419"><p>Aaargh! So sorry. been there done that.</p><p></p><p>I remember when I was a kid... If my dad pulled over on the freeweay, we were dead meat. </p><p></p><p>My difficult child did something similar when he was 3. He was directly behind me in his car seat, and as I crossed the intersection, turning left, he escalated his kicking tantrum, reached up and yanked my hair through the headrest so I hit my head and had no idea if I was turning correctly. I had to slam on the brakes and turn around (nearly scalping myself) and whack his arm to get him to let go. My heart was beating SO fast! :whew:</p><p></p><p>I WAS judged, by the way. The lady behind me had just pulled out of the church pking lot and saw me turn around and take a swipe at difficult child. It looked like I smacked him across the face--ironic when you consider we were just leaving a church that teaches nonviolence! I saw her for a brief second as she threw her hands up to her face and bowed her head, like, OMG. (In fact, I missed!)</p><p>Nothing like adding guilt to the whole thing. She had no idea I'd almost been wiped out ... I had a half a mind to call her when I got home but decided that would just make it worse. Sigh.</p><p></p><p>We got pulled over for speeding not long after that ... we'd eaten out and he was totally obnoxious in the restaurant and in the car, and I couldn't wait to get home ... I was ticked about the ticket but relieved when the officer opened the back door, put on the Kiddie Lock (which I didn't realize wasn't on), secured difficult child back into his carseat (he'd climbed out of it, of course ... but there's nothing like a uniformed authority figure to get a toddler to behave!) and sent us on our way. It was almost worth the $. </p><p> :rolleyes:</p><p></p><p>Oh, by the way, we never, ever have violence problems in the car any more. The pulling-over thing has worked beautifully. More than that, the child psychiatric suggested that I take difficult child home ea time he has a tantrum, park in the driveway, and force him to repeat the behavior until he can't stand it anymore. (Generally 1/2 hr.)</p><p>So it didn't take more than 3X of standing over difficult child and making him kick the back of the seat, hit it, and scream until he tired of the whole thing. (Actually, he got into the kicking part but his hands really hurt, LOL!)</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="TerryJ2, post: 112673, member: 3419"] Aaargh! So sorry. been there done that. I remember when I was a kid... If my dad pulled over on the freeweay, we were dead meat. My difficult child did something similar when he was 3. He was directly behind me in his car seat, and as I crossed the intersection, turning left, he escalated his kicking tantrum, reached up and yanked my hair through the headrest so I hit my head and had no idea if I was turning correctly. I had to slam on the brakes and turn around (nearly scalping myself) and whack his arm to get him to let go. My heart was beating SO fast! [img]:whew:[/img] I WAS judged, by the way. The lady behind me had just pulled out of the church pking lot and saw me turn around and take a swipe at difficult child. It looked like I smacked him across the face--ironic when you consider we were just leaving a church that teaches nonviolence! I saw her for a brief second as she threw her hands up to her face and bowed her head, like, OMG. (In fact, I missed!) Nothing like adding guilt to the whole thing. She had no idea I'd almost been wiped out ... I had a half a mind to call her when I got home but decided that would just make it worse. Sigh. We got pulled over for speeding not long after that ... we'd eaten out and he was totally obnoxious in the restaurant and in the car, and I couldn't wait to get home ... I was ticked about the ticket but relieved when the officer opened the back door, put on the Kiddie Lock (which I didn't realize wasn't on), secured difficult child back into his carseat (he'd climbed out of it, of course ... but there's nothing like a uniformed authority figure to get a toddler to behave!) and sent us on our way. It was almost worth the $. [img]:rolleyes:[/img] Oh, by the way, we never, ever have violence problems in the car any more. The pulling-over thing has worked beautifully. More than that, the child psychiatric suggested that I take difficult child home ea time he has a tantrum, park in the driveway, and force him to repeat the behavior until he can't stand it anymore. (Generally 1/2 hr.) So it didn't take more than 3X of standing over difficult child and making him kick the back of the seat, hit it, and scream until he tired of the whole thing. (Actually, he got into the kicking part but his hands really hurt, LOL!) [/QUOTE]
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