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<blockquote data-quote="elizabrary" data-source="post: 749835" data-attributes="member: 11235"><p>I know it's difficult but once you start putting your focus on yourself and doing things you enjoy it is easier to detach. It's best if you can detach in love rather than in anger, but you need to detach from your son. Think about it this way- your interactions with your son are similar to the use of drugs by an addict. You are spending all of your time, energy and resources on him, so there is nothing left for you to nurture and care for yourself. Once you get used to focusing on you it becomes a way of life. I resent it sometimes when things encroach on my "me time." And I used to put everyone before me. It's not healthy for either of you. And think about this: if your help and assistance was going to make your son change his life for the better it would have happened by now. You're not doing him any favors by doing everything for him. He needs to figure it out for himself, and as he accomplishes things on his own he will feel better about himself and become more empowered to create a better life for himself.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="elizabrary, post: 749835, member: 11235"] I know it's difficult but once you start putting your focus on yourself and doing things you enjoy it is easier to detach. It's best if you can detach in love rather than in anger, but you need to detach from your son. Think about it this way- your interactions with your son are similar to the use of drugs by an addict. You are spending all of your time, energy and resources on him, so there is nothing left for you to nurture and care for yourself. Once you get used to focusing on you it becomes a way of life. I resent it sometimes when things encroach on my "me time." And I used to put everyone before me. It's not healthy for either of you. And think about this: if your help and assistance was going to make your son change his life for the better it would have happened by now. You're not doing him any favors by doing everything for him. He needs to figure it out for himself, and as he accomplishes things on his own he will feel better about himself and become more empowered to create a better life for himself. [/QUOTE]
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