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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember1" data-source="post: 749868" data-attributes="member: 23706"><p>That text is shocking to me. I have read hurtful things, but not wishes of death. Yet it took us a long time to disconnect and it is still hard. Actually, our daughter was the one who disconnected from us because we refused to give her any more money. And we had given her a lot.</p><p></p><p>I believe Kay has bipolar or more probably borderline as I know bipolar people who are perfectly nice and getting good help. No matter what Kay may have, there is help and she won't admit she has a problem and needs help. She smokes pot. That is all she will do to get help. That is on her. Maybe she would behave better if she got treatment but she never will. So she must be okay with her behavior.</p><p></p><p>If I am honest, my daughter and I don't have a normal relationship. It is not the type of relationship I wanted for us and nothing like I have with my other two children. I am only useful to her if I give her material items. I am not wanted or needed for love and companionship. Not by her. She does not want us to be grandparents to her son unless my husband and I meet her high monetary demands. And we are done doing that. We have little left anyway due to all we spent taking care of her.</p><p></p><p>I love my daughter, but I don't like her. She is very hurtful. I have cried endless tears over her. Now that my husband and I have not spoken to her for a while there is a sense of normalcy and even peace that we haven't felt in years. I still feel guilty sometimes, but not enough to change anything. Our enabling has done nothing good for Kay. Not one thing. I wish we had stopped doing so much for her long ago. Maybe she would be more motivated to act her age.</p><p></p><p>I hope you can think over if this dance with your son is helping him. Such ugly words and I am sure you are a lovely, caring person. You deserve to be free of that sort of demeaning abuse, even though he is your son. We all deserve to be treated well.</p><p></p><p>It is interesting that your son berates you for having an abusive partner when he is the same. I wonder if he sees the irony.</p><p></p><p></p><p>Be well.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember1, post: 749868, member: 23706"] That text is shocking to me. I have read hurtful things, but not wishes of death. Yet it took us a long time to disconnect and it is still hard. Actually, our daughter was the one who disconnected from us because we refused to give her any more money. And we had given her a lot. I believe Kay has bipolar or more probably borderline as I know bipolar people who are perfectly nice and getting good help. No matter what Kay may have, there is help and she won't admit she has a problem and needs help. She smokes pot. That is all she will do to get help. That is on her. Maybe she would behave better if she got treatment but she never will. So she must be okay with her behavior. If I am honest, my daughter and I don't have a normal relationship. It is not the type of relationship I wanted for us and nothing like I have with my other two children. I am only useful to her if I give her material items. I am not wanted or needed for love and companionship. Not by her. She does not want us to be grandparents to her son unless my husband and I meet her high monetary demands. And we are done doing that. We have little left anyway due to all we spent taking care of her. I love my daughter, but I don't like her. She is very hurtful. I have cried endless tears over her. Now that my husband and I have not spoken to her for a while there is a sense of normalcy and even peace that we haven't felt in years. I still feel guilty sometimes, but not enough to change anything. Our enabling has done nothing good for Kay. Not one thing. I wish we had stopped doing so much for her long ago. Maybe she would be more motivated to act her age. I hope you can think over if this dance with your son is helping him. Such ugly words and I am sure you are a lovely, caring person. You deserve to be free of that sort of demeaning abuse, even though he is your son. We all deserve to be treated well. It is interesting that your son berates you for having an abusive partner when he is the same. I wonder if he sees the irony. Be well. [/QUOTE]
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