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<blockquote data-quote="Tiapet" data-source="post: 610916" data-attributes="member: 455"><p>Thank you DDD and Calamity, that prayer is something I am and have been focusing on for a very long time as I know much of what has transpired and continues I can not change. Only how "I" react. I've tried to keep this all to no reaction until now and at this point the minimum without giving any fuel for the fire. Short, simple words.</p><p></p><p>Midwest, I too tried my entire life to please her, to do right and be the best I could. The history is very similar though not sure if you had codependency stuff as well. I was the little adult all my life care taking of both parents. It has only been an my adult life through therapy that I learned all that I have as well as trust issues arose and ruined every relationship. If you do not have trust you have nothing and my foundation was never built nor learned from my parents sadly. I only had my grandparents to thank for my sanity and who I am and became, thank goodness. If I hadn't have had them I think I may have turned out really badly with serious mental health issues instead of strong and a survivor as I was told.</p><p></p><p>I get what your saying about DNA. I've heard about how you can't pick your family but you can later "choose" a family to build, no matter who it is in that they are. Unfortunately I never had the trust in anyone to do that. I'm ok however. I learned long ago what I needed to and it's only been since my divorce that I really got my head together even more so. Life's lessons teach you many valuable things.</p><p></p><p>I'm sorry my post ran all together above. I've tried editing it several times into paragraphs but it just goes right back. Not sure why the site is doing that. It's very difficult to read like that.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Tiapet, post: 610916, member: 455"] Thank you DDD and Calamity, that prayer is something I am and have been focusing on for a very long time as I know much of what has transpired and continues I can not change. Only how "I" react. I've tried to keep this all to no reaction until now and at this point the minimum without giving any fuel for the fire. Short, simple words. Midwest, I too tried my entire life to please her, to do right and be the best I could. The history is very similar though not sure if you had codependency stuff as well. I was the little adult all my life care taking of both parents. It has only been an my adult life through therapy that I learned all that I have as well as trust issues arose and ruined every relationship. If you do not have trust you have nothing and my foundation was never built nor learned from my parents sadly. I only had my grandparents to thank for my sanity and who I am and became, thank goodness. If I hadn't have had them I think I may have turned out really badly with serious mental health issues instead of strong and a survivor as I was told. I get what your saying about DNA. I've heard about how you can't pick your family but you can later "choose" a family to build, no matter who it is in that they are. Unfortunately I never had the trust in anyone to do that. I'm ok however. I learned long ago what I needed to and it's only been since my divorce that I really got my head together even more so. Life's lessons teach you many valuable things. I'm sorry my post ran all together above. I've tried editing it several times into paragraphs but it just goes right back. Not sure why the site is doing that. It's very difficult to read like that. [/QUOTE]
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