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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 707918" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>I am too. For other kinds of reasons. My son and I are doing well. He has been here in my house for most but not all nights and the other house is an escape valve, for when there is conflict which I usually provoke, because I do not feel he is following through.</p><p></p><p>His aggressiveness with us, has stopped. He is trying to be a moderating influence ON US, believing himself to be more conscious and rational with better self control. He's right.</p><p></p><p>Feeling. We can make our own hope. We can learn to produce it in ourselves. I know this is possible. I was bereft today but I feel better writing to you.</p><p></p><p>Would you like to someday go to the John C Carroll Folk School in North Carolina, in the mountains somewhere? They have hundreds of courses a year in all kinds of folk arts, like textile arts, and blacksmithing and the arts and photography, journaling I think, bird watching, clay, music, etcetera. All kinds of things. You stay there and lodging and food are included I think. Look at their online catalog. If we could synchronize the time we could try to meet in Atlanta which is where the van picks you up.</p><p></p><p>I think this life you are in requires defiance more than coping. You are not one bit a quitter Feeling. Now it's time to gun your motor.</p><p></p><p>We have talked about trying to find your son, and I do remember that we were stymied, because you thought at that time, I think, that to find him would not give you (or he) anything, unless he was willing to go to treatment.</p><p></p><p>The thing is, he might have gone to treatment. He might be receiving treatment. He might have been in a facility.</p><p></p><p>Would there be repercussions to you if you did find him and tried to make contact? I am not saying bring him home. But to reach out to him and to talk. Is there any possibility of this? I know there is the likelihood that his delusions would get the best of him. And I realize that there could be danger to you. But could there be a way, or is this out of the question, completely?</p><p></p><p>Would you be in violation of the restraining order if you sought contact? Could there be repercussions to you?</p><p></p><p>I know he lacks insight but he is very, very smart and his survival instinct is extremely keen. He is fighting for something, Feeling. He is not just operating from fear and delusion. He is sustaining himself for a reason. I would find that to be a source of hope, I think.</p><p></p><p>My son often recounts his history. Sometimes it is far, far back--nice memories and sometimes it is over the last 4 years when he was in and out of my home, usually thrown out, and on or near the streets. So he says, March, 2 years ago we had trouble and I had to leave and I was in Laurie's house until I had to leave there. And then blah, blah, blah he continues. (You see, I find this theme kind of painful.)</p><p></p><p>So I said: <em>Is there a reason to recount this odyssey?</em></p><p></p><p>And he answered without missing a beat.</p><p></p><p><em>Because we've gone well past the Iliad.</em></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 707918, member: 18958"] I am too. For other kinds of reasons. My son and I are doing well. He has been here in my house for most but not all nights and the other house is an escape valve, for when there is conflict which I usually provoke, because I do not feel he is following through. His aggressiveness with us, has stopped. He is trying to be a moderating influence ON US, believing himself to be more conscious and rational with better self control. He's right. Feeling. We can make our own hope. We can learn to produce it in ourselves. I know this is possible. I was bereft today but I feel better writing to you. Would you like to someday go to the John C Carroll Folk School in North Carolina, in the mountains somewhere? They have hundreds of courses a year in all kinds of folk arts, like textile arts, and blacksmithing and the arts and photography, journaling I think, bird watching, clay, music, etcetera. All kinds of things. You stay there and lodging and food are included I think. Look at their online catalog. If we could synchronize the time we could try to meet in Atlanta which is where the van picks you up. I think this life you are in requires defiance more than coping. You are not one bit a quitter Feeling. Now it's time to gun your motor. We have talked about trying to find your son, and I do remember that we were stymied, because you thought at that time, I think, that to find him would not give you (or he) anything, unless he was willing to go to treatment. The thing is, he might have gone to treatment. He might be receiving treatment. He might have been in a facility. Would there be repercussions to you if you did find him and tried to make contact? I am not saying bring him home. But to reach out to him and to talk. Is there any possibility of this? I know there is the likelihood that his delusions would get the best of him. And I realize that there could be danger to you. But could there be a way, or is this out of the question, completely? Would you be in violation of the restraining order if you sought contact? Could there be repercussions to you? I know he lacks insight but he is very, very smart and his survival instinct is extremely keen. He is fighting for something, Feeling. He is not just operating from fear and delusion. He is sustaining himself for a reason. I would find that to be a source of hope, I think. My son often recounts his history. Sometimes it is far, far back--nice memories and sometimes it is over the last 4 years when he was in and out of my home, usually thrown out, and on or near the streets. So he says, March, 2 years ago we had trouble and I had to leave and I was in Laurie's house until I had to leave there. And then blah, blah, blah he continues. (You see, I find this theme kind of painful.) So I said: [I]Is there a reason to recount this odyssey?[/I] And he answered without missing a beat. [I]Because we've gone well past the Iliad.[/I] [/QUOTE]
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