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<blockquote data-quote="Feeling Sad" data-source="post: 729614" data-attributes="member: 19245"><p>Thank you, everyone, for your kind words. It helps immensely that I have a 'place' to visit for support and respite. I can't shock anyone here or be embarrassed. We have all gone through similar heart-wrenching ordeals.</p><p></p><p>Leafy, you must be going through so much. Yes, it is very difficult not knowing...not knowing if they are healthy or if others are taking advantage of them. I know that small things trigger my memories of my ill son. I still keep a box of foil, a beat-up bath rug, and a pair of broken scissors...all things that he purchased for me. His old room is long and and skinny. I use it to store things of his, my mother's, my father's, and my brother's. I have a multitude of boxes of things. I donated a ton and gave things away. But, some things are just too difficult to part with, for often silly little reasons. When I go in there, I can only work and sort for an hour or so, before it all catches up with me.</p><p></p><p>We miss our children, the way that they once were. They have changed for different reasons, but in a lot of ways, they are still helpless and in need of our guidance. But, their dangerous behaviors and lack of insight precludes any possible help.</p><p></p><p>Yes, we all need to think of our well-being and health. The stress is catching up with me. I bet that it is difficult for you to come home after work, as well. Probably when your son is off and about, you miss Hubs the most. I know that you had your difficulties. But, you have to remember that you had many, many wonderful years. Years to look back on and cherish. I wish that I had such memories. My fondest memories are of my children when they were little and of my childhood before age 11 when my sister became schizophrenic. It is becoming more and more difficult to remember good times. My class is very challenging, but they make me laugh every single day. For this, I am very grateful to them.</p><p></p><p>Everyone on this site has to act against their parental instincts to protect their own health and, even, safety. Yes, we ache to help our grown children. But, when they are adults, there is less that we can do, especially when mental illness and /or addiction is involved.</p><p></p><p>Copa, I am saddened to hear that you are still experiencing pain from your son. I am glad that both you and Leafy have found ways to heal your hearts. You are both very strong women. I still think of your column dressing when I shop. Tunics are very popular now...</p><p></p><p>I hope that we all are able to find calm in the storm. Leafy, I still remember that wonderful ocean themed free verse that you wrote. You are a gifted writer. God's peace to all. I feel very angry these days, but I still find that giving my problems to a higher source helps.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Feeling Sad, post: 729614, member: 19245"] Thank you, everyone, for your kind words. It helps immensely that I have a 'place' to visit for support and respite. I can't shock anyone here or be embarrassed. We have all gone through similar heart-wrenching ordeals. Leafy, you must be going through so much. Yes, it is very difficult not knowing...not knowing if they are healthy or if others are taking advantage of them. I know that small things trigger my memories of my ill son. I still keep a box of foil, a beat-up bath rug, and a pair of broken scissors...all things that he purchased for me. His old room is long and and skinny. I use it to store things of his, my mother's, my father's, and my brother's. I have a multitude of boxes of things. I donated a ton and gave things away. But, some things are just too difficult to part with, for often silly little reasons. When I go in there, I can only work and sort for an hour or so, before it all catches up with me. We miss our children, the way that they once were. They have changed for different reasons, but in a lot of ways, they are still helpless and in need of our guidance. But, their dangerous behaviors and lack of insight precludes any possible help. Yes, we all need to think of our well-being and health. The stress is catching up with me. I bet that it is difficult for you to come home after work, as well. Probably when your son is off and about, you miss Hubs the most. I know that you had your difficulties. But, you have to remember that you had many, many wonderful years. Years to look back on and cherish. I wish that I had such memories. My fondest memories are of my children when they were little and of my childhood before age 11 when my sister became schizophrenic. It is becoming more and more difficult to remember good times. My class is very challenging, but they make me laugh every single day. For this, I am very grateful to them. Everyone on this site has to act against their parental instincts to protect their own health and, even, safety. Yes, we ache to help our grown children. But, when they are adults, there is less that we can do, especially when mental illness and /or addiction is involved. Copa, I am saddened to hear that you are still experiencing pain from your son. I am glad that both you and Leafy have found ways to heal your hearts. You are both very strong women. I still think of your column dressing when I shop. Tunics are very popular now... I hope that we all are able to find calm in the storm. Leafy, I still remember that wonderful ocean themed free verse that you wrote. You are a gifted writer. God's peace to all. I feel very angry these days, but I still find that giving my problems to a higher source helps. [/QUOTE]
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