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<blockquote data-quote="ksm" data-source="post: 590127" data-attributes="member: 12511"><p>Thanks for your insight. It is good to have some one who has been there done that. I wish there was another grandparent who would step in!! Her biomom's parents live almost 1500 miles away... and they are in their 60's and 70's. That grandma still works and her husband isn't in the best health. Plus, they couldn't handle biomom as a teen so they are not an option. My exhusband and his wife are also far away. Both sets of grandparents are the kind who call occasionally and send a birthday and christmas gift. So no help at all. </p><p></p><p>In a way, I think it is worse than a normal adoption with a child that grows in to a difficult child... as you know - all grandkids are easy child! because you don't have to live with them and give structure to their lives. So you have a easy child that turns in to a difficult child. Maybe it would have happened anyway... And I know that we are probably doing a way better job than biomom ever would. She has called once (on Christmas day) in the past 10 months. She didn't even call on the girls birthday. </p><p></p><p>Now that gardening time is here, I always find that time pulling weeds and tending plants is very calming for me. I hope to start walking more - as the weather is pleasant for a couple months before the heat becomes unbearable. I worry about the summer - as difficult child had several things she could do and give us a break for a couple of weeks, but since they are church based she refuses to go to camp or a trip to another state for a youth conference. So we are stuck with her... and she with us. I worry about even letting her spend afternoons at the pool - as she could leave with boys or kids she doesn't even know. She needs one more year to have a part time job. She just turned 15 last month. I need to edit my profile - but I can't seem to find how to do it! </p><p></p><p>Anyway, thanks for sharing your experience as a grandma raising a teen. KSM</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="ksm, post: 590127, member: 12511"] Thanks for your insight. It is good to have some one who has been there done that. I wish there was another grandparent who would step in!! Her biomom's parents live almost 1500 miles away... and they are in their 60's and 70's. That grandma still works and her husband isn't in the best health. Plus, they couldn't handle biomom as a teen so they are not an option. My exhusband and his wife are also far away. Both sets of grandparents are the kind who call occasionally and send a birthday and christmas gift. So no help at all. In a way, I think it is worse than a normal adoption with a child that grows in to a difficult child... as you know - all grandkids are easy child! because you don't have to live with them and give structure to their lives. So you have a easy child that turns in to a difficult child. Maybe it would have happened anyway... And I know that we are probably doing a way better job than biomom ever would. She has called once (on Christmas day) in the past 10 months. She didn't even call on the girls birthday. Now that gardening time is here, I always find that time pulling weeds and tending plants is very calming for me. I hope to start walking more - as the weather is pleasant for a couple months before the heat becomes unbearable. I worry about the summer - as difficult child had several things she could do and give us a break for a couple of weeks, but since they are church based she refuses to go to camp or a trip to another state for a youth conference. So we are stuck with her... and she with us. I worry about even letting her spend afternoons at the pool - as she could leave with boys or kids she doesn't even know. She needs one more year to have a part time job. She just turned 15 last month. I need to edit my profile - but I can't seem to find how to do it! Anyway, thanks for sharing your experience as a grandma raising a teen. KSM [/QUOTE]
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