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<blockquote data-quote="DaisyFace" data-source="post: 397334" data-attributes="member: 6546"><p>Wow! SRL makes a really good point here....</p><p> </p><p>For some people, gifts are a sign of love and for others - it is not. For me, actions are a sign of love (I think the book SRL references calls it "acts of service")....Gifts often feel very "hollow" to me if the giver is only going through the motions - so I tend to let people know that I would rather have their love and affection than something in a box. In other words, treat me nicely! My son explained that he couldn't figure out a way to giftwrap "Love" so he wrote it down in a letter, put it in a box and wrapped it! Great gift!!!</p><p> </p><p>I think you need to let people know how you really feel...</p><p> </p><p>But not right now. Wait a while until the holidays are over and done and then let them know that you DO think gifts are important - even if they are only small.</p><p> </p><p>Do NOT try to wrap it in a "guilt-trip"...they should not feel guilty because they cannot read your mind or your heart. You told them to get you nothing....and they assumed that you meant what you said. Not their fault!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DaisyFace, post: 397334, member: 6546"] Wow! SRL makes a really good point here.... For some people, gifts are a sign of love and for others - it is not. For me, actions are a sign of love (I think the book SRL references calls it "acts of service")....Gifts often feel very "hollow" to me if the giver is only going through the motions - so I tend to let people know that I would rather have their love and affection than something in a box. In other words, treat me nicely! My son explained that he couldn't figure out a way to giftwrap "Love" so he wrote it down in a letter, put it in a box and wrapped it! Great gift!!! I think you need to let people know how you really feel... But not right now. Wait a while until the holidays are over and done and then let them know that you DO think gifts are important - even if they are only small. Do NOT try to wrap it in a "guilt-trip"...they should not feel guilty because they cannot read your mind or your heart. You told them to get you nothing....and they assumed that you meant what you said. Not their fault! [/QUOTE]
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