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<blockquote data-quote="WiseChoices" data-source="post: 750907" data-attributes="member: 24254"><p>I listened to a YouTube video this morning that had good tips:</p><p>S= Stop enabling and the money flow</p><p>A= Assemble support group for yourself</p><p>N= Nip excuses in the bud</p><p>I= Implement rules and boundaries</p><p>T=Trust your instincts</p><p>Y= Yield everything to God</p><p></p><p>Stopping the money flow resonated with me a lot . The excuses we make to ourselves are things like:</p><p>√Its so hard for kids today</p><p>√if I don't help who will? </p><p>√I am only trying to help</p><p>√Noone understands my child</p><p>√He/she just needs to find the right treatment/job/partner etc</p><p> </p><p>Excuses keep US in pain . I have no doubt in my mind now that the way our children speak to us with disrespect is BECAUSE we are being disrespectful to ourselves when we 1. Allow it 2. Pay for things that are THEIR responsibility 3. Come from the angle of "please love me, accept me, approve of me".</p><p></p><p>My Father is a very self respecting person. He would never allow anyone to speak to him with disrespect. He does not seek approval from others . He loves me, but would throw me out in a heartbeat if I crossed his boundaries. </p><p></p><p>The YouTube was by Allison Bottke by the way if anyone wishes to look at her website. She has a book out as well.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="WiseChoices, post: 750907, member: 24254"] I listened to a YouTube video this morning that had good tips: S= Stop enabling and the money flow A= Assemble support group for yourself N= Nip excuses in the bud I= Implement rules and boundaries T=Trust your instincts Y= Yield everything to God Stopping the money flow resonated with me a lot . The excuses we make to ourselves are things like: √Its so hard for kids today √if I don't help who will? √I am only trying to help √Noone understands my child √He/she just needs to find the right treatment/job/partner etc Excuses keep US in pain . I have no doubt in my mind now that the way our children speak to us with disrespect is BECAUSE we are being disrespectful to ourselves when we 1. Allow it 2. Pay for things that are THEIR responsibility 3. Come from the angle of "please love me, accept me, approve of me". My Father is a very self respecting person. He would never allow anyone to speak to him with disrespect. He does not seek approval from others . He loves me, but would throw me out in a heartbeat if I crossed his boundaries. The YouTube was by Allison Bottke by the way if anyone wishes to look at her website. She has a book out as well. [/QUOTE]
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