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<blockquote data-quote="WhyDoWeFallBruce?" data-source="post: 751399" data-attributes="member: 24405"><p>When my son turned 15, I learned that he was smoking cigarettes. My response was: “Well my son, this means I will no longer give you money - as long as you smoke, that is.” (I was a smoker and when I was Young, my mom ended up buying most of my cigarettes, without knowing, so I knew all about it) </p><p>I never gave him any, and had no issue with him on this. He just got money from his mom and carried on with life. And also got a job!</p><p>So for me, there was no issue about money, when I learned about the drug abuse. </p><p>Only from then on, he suddently began begging and pleading with me. I was stern on this subject, so he never got any. He somehow had his granma pay the phone. And after that, his mom. </p><p>He always seems to land on both feet and thus I never saw a reason to save him, financially. </p><p></p><p>And neither should you. If he wants contact, he Can find a computer at a library or shelter. Write you an e-mail. Or tweet. Or other. </p><p>The World today no longer needs phones for that. </p><p></p><p>My son only replies to texts when HE feels like it. Wich is actually fair enough, when you contemplate it. What business of mine is it, to try and force him to do otherwise? Would I think it okay for him to force me to respond?</p><p>I of course feel disheartened when he “ghosts” me. AND it is unfair and disrespectful of him. </p><p></p><p>But should I let it control me? </p><p>Never. </p><p></p><p>If you pay that phone, you risk feeling entitled, and you should ask your self if this is good path for you to walk? </p><p></p><p>Lots of thoughts </p><p></p><p>P.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="WhyDoWeFallBruce?, post: 751399, member: 24405"] When my son turned 15, I learned that he was smoking cigarettes. My response was: “Well my son, this means I will no longer give you money - as long as you smoke, that is.” (I was a smoker and when I was Young, my mom ended up buying most of my cigarettes, without knowing, so I knew all about it) I never gave him any, and had no issue with him on this. He just got money from his mom and carried on with life. And also got a job! So for me, there was no issue about money, when I learned about the drug abuse. Only from then on, he suddently began begging and pleading with me. I was stern on this subject, so he never got any. He somehow had his granma pay the phone. And after that, his mom. He always seems to land on both feet and thus I never saw a reason to save him, financially. And neither should you. If he wants contact, he Can find a computer at a library or shelter. Write you an e-mail. Or tweet. Or other. The World today no longer needs phones for that. My son only replies to texts when HE feels like it. Wich is actually fair enough, when you contemplate it. What business of mine is it, to try and force him to do otherwise? Would I think it okay for him to force me to respond? I of course feel disheartened when he “ghosts” me. AND it is unfair and disrespectful of him. But should I let it control me? Never. If you pay that phone, you risk feeling entitled, and you should ask your self if this is good path for you to walk? Lots of thoughts P. [/QUOTE]
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