I read the beginning of the SA thread, Leafy.
When you quoted the words that left you feeling shamed, you enclosed in quotes: "Those of us in SA...."
The mod's actual words were: "Most of us in the SA forum...."
I don't know where the post went from there, because I didn't finish it. I found the moderator's response to have been kind, informative, inclusive, and complimentary. She did not mean to hurt you, Leafy.
Cedar