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<blockquote data-quote="Andy" data-source="post: 247981" data-attributes="member: 5096"><p>My difficult child and I were there last year. He started 5th grade not wanting to go to school and we had not a clue what was going on. He developed a lot of somatic symptoms (is that the term for unexplained medical issues such as not being able to breath, chest pains, seeing spots, ect.). I spent the first few weeks in school with him. I even sat next to him for a few weeks before sitting outside the door with my feet inside so he knew I was there and then to just being in the building. My difficult child had fallen deep deep deep into anxiety but I did not know what it was. He was unable to ride 5 minutes to Target to get a LEGO set that he had been asking for. He just couldn't make it that far from home.</p><p> </p><p>I was blessed with difficult child having a teacher who believed in both me and difficult child. The private school difficult child goes to worked with us. I ended up admitting difficult child (upon his request) to a children's psychiatric hospital. He was put on Flouxetine (contraversial I hear but worked for him) and clonazepam (took the edge off but lead him into nasty mean behaviors). We added intense therapy (once per week with the psychologist and daily with each issue once discharged from the hospital) and he worked very hard on gaining control of his life. He has coping skills that the school allowed him to use whenever needed such as journaling. When he became upset, he was allowed to turn his focus to journaling. He was allowed to call me at work whenever he needed to talk.</p><p> </p><p>We did not go the route of an IEP because the school was on the same page with us and actively following what my difficult child needed in each situation as well and looking "outside the box" for ways to help him. What an IEP will do for you is to set up the educational tools your difficult child will need to learn and the school will need to follow the rules of those tools - such as allowing difficult child to have a beveridge at his desk at all times, decrease the homework, have an aide in the room, ect. You make a list of what will make your difficult child's education a success and implement those things through an IEP. Since your difficult child's school is taking the tone of him "just get to school and do your work", you do need an IEP to protect his education.</p><p> </p><p>We lived a total nightmare for almost one year so I do know what you are going through and I can't imagine doing so without the active support of our school. Many times, the normal discipline procedures set by schools will make our difficult child's behaviors worse. They add to the anxiety. </p><p> </p><p>One encouraging thing: One week after my difficult child was admitted to the psychiatric hospital, he asked me, "Mom, do you know what I hate most about being here is?" "No, What?" "That you don't get to watch me grow up." He was referring to the fact that he really felt that he was gaining some control and learning ways to cope. He was starting to feel confident.</p><p>(He had only been overnight without mom or dad maybe 2 or 3 times in his 11 years of life. Being in the psychiatric hospital unable to pick up the phone and call home was the hardest thing he ever faced.)</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Andy, post: 247981, member: 5096"] My difficult child and I were there last year. He started 5th grade not wanting to go to school and we had not a clue what was going on. He developed a lot of somatic symptoms (is that the term for unexplained medical issues such as not being able to breath, chest pains, seeing spots, ect.). I spent the first few weeks in school with him. I even sat next to him for a few weeks before sitting outside the door with my feet inside so he knew I was there and then to just being in the building. My difficult child had fallen deep deep deep into anxiety but I did not know what it was. He was unable to ride 5 minutes to Target to get a LEGO set that he had been asking for. He just couldn't make it that far from home. I was blessed with difficult child having a teacher who believed in both me and difficult child. The private school difficult child goes to worked with us. I ended up admitting difficult child (upon his request) to a children's psychiatric hospital. He was put on Flouxetine (contraversial I hear but worked for him) and clonazepam (took the edge off but lead him into nasty mean behaviors). We added intense therapy (once per week with the psychologist and daily with each issue once discharged from the hospital) and he worked very hard on gaining control of his life. He has coping skills that the school allowed him to use whenever needed such as journaling. When he became upset, he was allowed to turn his focus to journaling. He was allowed to call me at work whenever he needed to talk. We did not go the route of an IEP because the school was on the same page with us and actively following what my difficult child needed in each situation as well and looking "outside the box" for ways to help him. What an IEP will do for you is to set up the educational tools your difficult child will need to learn and the school will need to follow the rules of those tools - such as allowing difficult child to have a beveridge at his desk at all times, decrease the homework, have an aide in the room, ect. You make a list of what will make your difficult child's education a success and implement those things through an IEP. Since your difficult child's school is taking the tone of him "just get to school and do your work", you do need an IEP to protect his education. We lived a total nightmare for almost one year so I do know what you are going through and I can't imagine doing so without the active support of our school. Many times, the normal discipline procedures set by schools will make our difficult child's behaviors worse. They add to the anxiety. One encouraging thing: One week after my difficult child was admitted to the psychiatric hospital, he asked me, "Mom, do you know what I hate most about being here is?" "No, What?" "That you don't get to watch me grow up." He was referring to the fact that he really felt that he was gaining some control and learning ways to cope. He was starting to feel confident. (He had only been overnight without mom or dad maybe 2 or 3 times in his 11 years of life. Being in the psychiatric hospital unable to pick up the phone and call home was the hardest thing he ever faced.) [/QUOTE]
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