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<blockquote data-quote="BloodiedButUnbowed" data-source="post: 737830" data-attributes="member: 13303"><p>Sounds like your son is in the right place, as difficult as it is.</p><p></p><p>Both of my stepsons have been psychiatrically hospitalized. Our situation is a bit different in that we are non custodial parents, so due to that and other dynamics between the boys and their mom (my spouse), we do not have anything close to a typical parent-child relationship with either of them.</p><p></p><p>The hospitalizations were far less dramatic than most other things we have endured with and because of them both, to be honest. At the time, we knew they needed the help and that a hospital setting was the place where they'd be the safest. They already hated us and spent very little time with us, so we weren't too concerned with rupturing a relationship with them.</p><p></p><p>As adults we can see what they need better than they can. In situations where fairly typical parent-child bonds exist, if the family relationship was positive and loving before the bad period began, no matter how ugly a child's rantings may be in the fury of their rage over the situation, ultimately the child will accept the parent's decision and no lasting damage to the relationship will occur.</p><p></p><p>I know it must kill you to think of your child alone in some strange place without you there to help protect him. If your son is violent and abusive to you, though, it does sound like he will benefit from being in a situation where his outbursts can be managed and YOU can begin to heal, yourself, from the terrible things that he has done to you. I know he is your child and you love him, and at the same time, he has hurt you and others. That has to be addressed. Living in fear is not living in my humble opinion. That belief is what brougth me here searching for answers when my oldest SS became violent.</p><p></p><p>Best of luck. I hope the hospitalization helps both your son and yourself.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BloodiedButUnbowed, post: 737830, member: 13303"] Sounds like your son is in the right place, as difficult as it is. Both of my stepsons have been psychiatrically hospitalized. Our situation is a bit different in that we are non custodial parents, so due to that and other dynamics between the boys and their mom (my spouse), we do not have anything close to a typical parent-child relationship with either of them. The hospitalizations were far less dramatic than most other things we have endured with and because of them both, to be honest. At the time, we knew they needed the help and that a hospital setting was the place where they'd be the safest. They already hated us and spent very little time with us, so we weren't too concerned with rupturing a relationship with them. As adults we can see what they need better than they can. In situations where fairly typical parent-child bonds exist, if the family relationship was positive and loving before the bad period began, no matter how ugly a child's rantings may be in the fury of their rage over the situation, ultimately the child will accept the parent's decision and no lasting damage to the relationship will occur. I know it must kill you to think of your child alone in some strange place without you there to help protect him. If your son is violent and abusive to you, though, it does sound like he will benefit from being in a situation where his outbursts can be managed and YOU can begin to heal, yourself, from the terrible things that he has done to you. I know he is your child and you love him, and at the same time, he has hurt you and others. That has to be addressed. Living in fear is not living in my humble opinion. That belief is what brougth me here searching for answers when my oldest SS became violent. Best of luck. I hope the hospitalization helps both your son and yourself. [/QUOTE]
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