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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 737864" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>Vonnie. HI. Welcome.</p><p></p><p>You are very, very brave. And you are doing the absolutely right thing. The other mothers' replies are instructive. For them, after the first few minutes, they are okay. They cope. They adjust. They make friends. It is the new normal. It is like taking them to kindergarten or day care. It is only until you leave, the first day.</p><p></p><p>The important thing, is you are giving your son a huge chance. He may likely stabilize on medication. There is no reason why not. But you really had no choice. If he became violent, he was a danger both to others and to himself. There was no other option.</p><p></p><p>Make sure you ask for an IEP at school, if he does not yet have one. He will be entitled to interventions and supports, and possibly placements, for which he would not otherwise be eligible. It is contractual. The school is obligated. Parents here know how to help you advocate for him, and there should be local agencies that provide legal help, as needed.</p><p></p><p>Anyway. I hope you keep posting. It helps very much. Take care.</p><p></p><p>What kind of a doctor says something like this? If he was suicidal what you do is put him in the hospital. You don't crush a mother and make a sinister speech like this. I have never ever heard of any doctor making a statement like this. Maybe psychiatry is different in my country, I don"t know.....</p><p></p><p>Bags. You were wise to hospitalize him, because it brought you to where you are now, which is stability and safety for you, and the beginning of healing.</p><p></p><p>My son is almost twice the age of yours, and I am in the same place.</p><p>I wake up at 2:30 am every morning unable to sleep. To me this was always a vulnerable time, as long as I remember.</p><p></p><p>I am either filled with dread. Where is he? Is he in shelter? Will he die without treatment? Is he in danger?</p><p></p><p>Or I feel like I want to die. Like my life is over. It is that kind of despair. It is not like I want to die. It is just that these thoughts get planted into my head and it takes a few hours each day to rise above the sense my life is over. Or that I want it to be.</p><p></p><p>Vonnie. This is very, very hard stuff. Right now you are centered in your son. His pain. His feelings and struggle. But the very real thing is that this is extremely difficult and traumatic for you, for us. That is why it is important to find community around this, whether here, or Al Anon or NAMI, or group therapy. But someplace where you can tell the truth about what is happening and how you feel.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 737864, member: 18958"] Vonnie. HI. Welcome. You are very, very brave. And you are doing the absolutely right thing. The other mothers' replies are instructive. For them, after the first few minutes, they are okay. They cope. They adjust. They make friends. It is the new normal. It is like taking them to kindergarten or day care. It is only until you leave, the first day. The important thing, is you are giving your son a huge chance. He may likely stabilize on medication. There is no reason why not. But you really had no choice. If he became violent, he was a danger both to others and to himself. There was no other option. Make sure you ask for an IEP at school, if he does not yet have one. He will be entitled to interventions and supports, and possibly placements, for which he would not otherwise be eligible. It is contractual. The school is obligated. Parents here know how to help you advocate for him, and there should be local agencies that provide legal help, as needed. Anyway. I hope you keep posting. It helps very much. Take care. What kind of a doctor says something like this? If he was suicidal what you do is put him in the hospital. You don't crush a mother and make a sinister speech like this. I have never ever heard of any doctor making a statement like this. Maybe psychiatry is different in my country, I don"t know..... Bags. You were wise to hospitalize him, because it brought you to where you are now, which is stability and safety for you, and the beginning of healing. My son is almost twice the age of yours, and I am in the same place. I wake up at 2:30 am every morning unable to sleep. To me this was always a vulnerable time, as long as I remember. I am either filled with dread. Where is he? Is he in shelter? Will he die without treatment? Is he in danger? Or I feel like I want to die. Like my life is over. It is that kind of despair. It is not like I want to die. It is just that these thoughts get planted into my head and it takes a few hours each day to rise above the sense my life is over. Or that I want it to be. Vonnie. This is very, very hard stuff. Right now you are centered in your son. His pain. His feelings and struggle. But the very real thing is that this is extremely difficult and traumatic for you, for us. That is why it is important to find community around this, whether here, or Al Anon or NAMI, or group therapy. But someplace where you can tell the truth about what is happening and how you feel. [/QUOTE]
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