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First time posting, son 31, heroin addict, living at home, sober and stable for months, then not
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 730624" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Never to diminish sexual abuse but my daughters both had this too. My oldest turned to drugs first then quit as she decided that she refused to let it define her. She was raped in a friend's house at eight and was ashamed to tell me until 14. My younger daughter was molested badly by a much older foster child. She took her recovery even father, never took drugs even pot, or got into trouble and graduated recently from Criminal Justice. She wants to do good and help others. Her final goal is as a police officer. Right now she is going back for her second interview at our county jail. Today!!!</p><p></p><p>Your son had a terrible time but it was his choice to allow the horrible sexual abuse to define him. He had other options.</p><p></p><p>Both my girls are doing extremely well. By choice.</p><p></p><p>Neither allowed the abuse to ruin their lives. Your son can take the same attitude but did not. Help was out there for him and he wouldn't take it. That's his fault.</p><p> He is an adult, not a cute little boy with ODD. He can control how he treats people, including you.</p><p></p><p>His mental illness diagnoses are treatable and not on the spectrum of serious, such as schizophrenia. Working folks have depression and anxiety. I did. And mine was severe. But I pushed on.</p><p></p><p>His drug addiction is his X factor plus unwillingnesd to throw himself into serious recovery which he is capable of.</p><p></p><p>You have to do what you feel is best and I am in favor of you detaching from all this drama and living a great rest of your life. You can control one person in life....yourself. you have NO control over your son nor can you mommy him to healing. He is on his own. He is too old for mommy stuff. He must bandage his own knees.</p><p></p><p>Try to have a peaceful day and love yourself</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 730624, member: 1550"] Never to diminish sexual abuse but my daughters both had this too. My oldest turned to drugs first then quit as she decided that she refused to let it define her. She was raped in a friend's house at eight and was ashamed to tell me until 14. My younger daughter was molested badly by a much older foster child. She took her recovery even father, never took drugs even pot, or got into trouble and graduated recently from Criminal Justice. She wants to do good and help others. Her final goal is as a police officer. Right now she is going back for her second interview at our county jail. Today!!! Your son had a terrible time but it was his choice to allow the horrible sexual abuse to define him. He had other options. Both my girls are doing extremely well. By choice. Neither allowed the abuse to ruin their lives. Your son can take the same attitude but did not. Help was out there for him and he wouldn't take it. That's his fault. He is an adult, not a cute little boy with ODD. He can control how he treats people, including you. His mental illness diagnoses are treatable and not on the spectrum of serious, such as schizophrenia. Working folks have depression and anxiety. I did. And mine was severe. But I pushed on. His drug addiction is his X factor plus unwillingnesd to throw himself into serious recovery which he is capable of. You have to do what you feel is best and I am in favor of you detaching from all this drama and living a great rest of your life. You can control one person in life....yourself. you have NO control over your son nor can you mommy him to healing. He is on his own. He is too old for mommy stuff. He must bandage his own knees. Try to have a peaceful day and love yourself [/QUOTE]
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