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First time posting, son 31, heroin addict, living at home, sober and stable for months, then not
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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 730639" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>Patty. I hear a lot of "shoulds" in what you write. You seem harsh to you.</p><p></p><p>Are you really clear about what you need? Or is it that you believe there is a right thing to do?</p><p></p><p>It is easy for some of us to tell you. That does not mean it is right.</p><p></p><p>And your husband deserves voice too.</p><p></p><p>My SO and I talk about our situation constantly. I would guess this is our number one topic. LOL. Over 8 years we have made so many mistakes. Alot of what he thought would work ( hard ass) did not work. Because I was lost, I went along. I have guilt, too. Now he is the softer, yielding one. We have come together in our views and responses.</p><p></p><p>I would urge you to dialog with your husband, and together to talk with son. Maybe this is something we can support you with. Right now you are as if combusting internally because you are holding all of the talking for 3 people inside you. It seems.</p><p></p><p>I know I do not really know anything about what I want, need or think, until I speak and listen.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 730639, member: 18958"] Patty. I hear a lot of "shoulds" in what you write. You seem harsh to you. Are you really clear about what you need? Or is it that you believe there is a right thing to do? It is easy for some of us to tell you. That does not mean it is right. And your husband deserves voice too. My SO and I talk about our situation constantly. I would guess this is our number one topic. LOL. Over 8 years we have made so many mistakes. Alot of what he thought would work ( hard ass) did not work. Because I was lost, I went along. I have guilt, too. Now he is the softer, yielding one. We have come together in our views and responses. I would urge you to dialog with your husband, and together to talk with son. Maybe this is something we can support you with. Right now you are as if combusting internally because you are holding all of the talking for 3 people inside you. It seems. I know I do not really know anything about what I want, need or think, until I speak and listen. [/QUOTE]
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