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First time posting, son 31, heroin addict, living at home, sober and stable for months, then not
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<blockquote data-quote="RN0441" data-source="post: 730683" data-attributes="member: 15032"><p>Patty</p><p></p><p>Welcome. Just caught up with your story. I am SO glad you found us and I do think that HE directed you here. I came here when our son was 15 and going off the rails after being a wonderful child. He was diagnosed with Conduct Disorder at the time but now looking back I realize it was drug use and drug brain and all the dysfunctional thinking that goes along with that.</p><p></p><p>When he was a minor we put him in rehabs many times. Both outpatient and inpatient. We did everything in our power to "help" him but nothing helped. I had many say that he was not responding to treatment. Ugh. What does that even mean? I knew it wasn't good. I just wanted to shake him. He was making me a screaming, crazy lunatic. Husband and I were not on the same page. It took years for us to get on the same page but I KNEW that I would rather be dead than live the way we were living. That is an awful feeling.</p><p></p><p>You have gotten great advice here so I cannot add to it except to be good to yourself. Have some self compassion. You are a good and loving woman and I think that you are doing the very best that you can. I hope that your therapist can help you. If she isn't then find another one. They are all different. I don't think focusing on leaving your marriage is something you should spend time on in therapy if that is not what you want to do. Most likely you could be content if your son were not living in your home, or at least that is what I think I am hearing.</p><p></p><p>Our son is in a long term faith based program that is mentioned above. He has taken a huge turn for the better and is actually going on a mission to Montana in June to an Indian reservation. He is terrified to speak in front of everyone there and tell his story but he is facing his fears. He is growing and changing. I feel hopeful for the first time in many years. We had gotten to a place in his addiction that I KNEW the only thing that would help him is to put him in God's hands and that is what I have done. I have become much more spiritual during this process with him and I am working on myself too while he is there.</p><p></p><p>Keep posting and reading. You will gain strength and insight here and you will get to where you need to be. I honestly can say that if not for this site I don't know where I'd be right now. I had to change my thinking too and I did not realize it until I came here and read the testimonies of those that have come before me.</p><p></p><p>Hugs.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="RN0441, post: 730683, member: 15032"] Patty Welcome. Just caught up with your story. I am SO glad you found us and I do think that HE directed you here. I came here when our son was 15 and going off the rails after being a wonderful child. He was diagnosed with Conduct Disorder at the time but now looking back I realize it was drug use and drug brain and all the dysfunctional thinking that goes along with that. When he was a minor we put him in rehabs many times. Both outpatient and inpatient. We did everything in our power to "help" him but nothing helped. I had many say that he was not responding to treatment. Ugh. What does that even mean? I knew it wasn't good. I just wanted to shake him. He was making me a screaming, crazy lunatic. Husband and I were not on the same page. It took years for us to get on the same page but I KNEW that I would rather be dead than live the way we were living. That is an awful feeling. You have gotten great advice here so I cannot add to it except to be good to yourself. Have some self compassion. You are a good and loving woman and I think that you are doing the very best that you can. I hope that your therapist can help you. If she isn't then find another one. They are all different. I don't think focusing on leaving your marriage is something you should spend time on in therapy if that is not what you want to do. Most likely you could be content if your son were not living in your home, or at least that is what I think I am hearing. Our son is in a long term faith based program that is mentioned above. He has taken a huge turn for the better and is actually going on a mission to Montana in June to an Indian reservation. He is terrified to speak in front of everyone there and tell his story but he is facing his fears. He is growing and changing. I feel hopeful for the first time in many years. We had gotten to a place in his addiction that I KNEW the only thing that would help him is to put him in God's hands and that is what I have done. I have become much more spiritual during this process with him and I am working on myself too while he is there. Keep posting and reading. You will gain strength and insight here and you will get to where you need to be. I honestly can say that if not for this site I don't know where I'd be right now. I had to change my thinking too and I did not realize it until I came here and read the testimonies of those that have come before me. Hugs. [/QUOTE]
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