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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 450844" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>My main concern about telling Jane, is the concern for how she will react as well as what could happen WHEN Jack finds out his mother has been told. This really is so very sticky. If you don't tell, you have to ensure your child is safe. And yes, I take the point that other kids almost certainly will not be safe. But if Jane is going to react with hostility and denial, then telling her will gain nothing. But I'm not saying DO nothing, just find a way through somehow, to get the situation changed. And if there is a chance that Jane will not react with hostility, that telling her could actually get some useful result, then of course tell her.</p><p></p><p>I also did wonder if perhaps this was a mirror image situation - that difficult child might be the one acting out this way and accusing Jack, may have stolen the iPod in order to put porn on it. Certainly it is on the cars that Jane will choose to think this first, rather than consider her son could be the aggressor.</p><p></p><p>What does therapist recommend? If therapist took the option of reporting this to CPS, then the issue of whether to tell Jane or not would be out of your hands. You could tell Jane as a heads up - "the therapist is a mandatory reporter, this is what difficult child said about the iPod, how about you get hold of it and see if there is any such stuff on it?" and hopefully if Jane is going to be angry with anybody, it will be the therapist for reporting "nonsense kids make up".</p><p></p><p>How is difficult child over this? Did he tell therapist but conditional on Jack not finding out he talked? Or did he tell with a sense of relief for finally getting it off his chest? It all has a bearing on where you go from here.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 450844, member: 1991"] My main concern about telling Jane, is the concern for how she will react as well as what could happen WHEN Jack finds out his mother has been told. This really is so very sticky. If you don't tell, you have to ensure your child is safe. And yes, I take the point that other kids almost certainly will not be safe. But if Jane is going to react with hostility and denial, then telling her will gain nothing. But I'm not saying DO nothing, just find a way through somehow, to get the situation changed. And if there is a chance that Jane will not react with hostility, that telling her could actually get some useful result, then of course tell her. I also did wonder if perhaps this was a mirror image situation - that difficult child might be the one acting out this way and accusing Jack, may have stolen the iPod in order to put porn on it. Certainly it is on the cars that Jane will choose to think this first, rather than consider her son could be the aggressor. What does therapist recommend? If therapist took the option of reporting this to CPS, then the issue of whether to tell Jane or not would be out of your hands. You could tell Jane as a heads up - "the therapist is a mandatory reporter, this is what difficult child said about the iPod, how about you get hold of it and see if there is any such stuff on it?" and hopefully if Jane is going to be angry with anybody, it will be the therapist for reporting "nonsense kids make up". How is difficult child over this? Did he tell therapist but conditional on Jack not finding out he talked? Or did he tell with a sense of relief for finally getting it off his chest? It all has a bearing on where you go from here. Marg [/QUOTE]
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