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<blockquote data-quote="Tanya M" data-source="post: 736494" data-attributes="member: 18516"><p>I'm so sorry for what you are going through. </p><p></p><p>It's a very difficult place to be. When one fills out an advanced directive (living will) they do so as they want things done or not done. It's a very personal choice. </p><p>We went through this with my mother in law a few years ago. She was on dialysis and hung on longer than any of us thought she should but it was her choice. It was so painful watching her suffer but again, it was her choice and we honored it.</p><p>My mother in law shared a story with me, one time when she in getting dialysis there was a woman in the chair next to her. This woman's daughter was there and was telling her mother "you should stop your dialysis, it's only prolonging your death"</p><p>First, I thought what a horrible thing to say to your own mother, then I started thinking about why?</p><p>What I came up with is the daughter was being selfish. She was having to take time out of her life to take her mother to dialysis. </p><p>For me, even though my mother in law suffered and was in so much pain I was grateful to be able to hold her hand, stroke her hair, feed her and tell her I loved her. Yes, when a loved one is dying it is heartbreaking but to be able to offer loving comfort to them while honoring their wishes is what I choose. </p><p></p><p>((HUGS)) to you.............</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Tanya M, post: 736494, member: 18516"] I'm so sorry for what you are going through. It's a very difficult place to be. When one fills out an advanced directive (living will) they do so as they want things done or not done. It's a very personal choice. We went through this with my mother in law a few years ago. She was on dialysis and hung on longer than any of us thought she should but it was her choice. It was so painful watching her suffer but again, it was her choice and we honored it. My mother in law shared a story with me, one time when she in getting dialysis there was a woman in the chair next to her. This woman's daughter was there and was telling her mother "you should stop your dialysis, it's only prolonging your death" First, I thought what a horrible thing to say to your own mother, then I started thinking about why? What I came up with is the daughter was being selfish. She was having to take time out of her life to take her mother to dialysis. For me, even though my mother in law suffered and was in so much pain I was grateful to be able to hold her hand, stroke her hair, feed her and tell her I loved her. Yes, when a loved one is dying it is heartbreaking but to be able to offer loving comfort to them while honoring their wishes is what I choose. ((HUGS)) to you............. [/QUOTE]
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