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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 373727" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>I understand a lot of where you are coming from. The control they can exert over their body is amazing. My son was born with a urinary problem and the first surgery was botched. The second surgery, a few years later, required the use of a catheter. The docs swore he would have no bladder control because the catheter. As he was already potty trained for some time, he was horrified by the idea of not having control and having to use a pullup. During the 2 weeks he had the catheter in he never once wet the pullup. Not a drop. The doctor didn't believe us until he took the catheter out - the end was crimped so that it was clear he was able to stop the flow from it. This doctor was a top urinary specialist at a Children's hospital and he said he had never seen anyone who could do that!</p><p> </p><p>As for food, I totally understand difficult child's point of view. I am a very texture driven eater. There are foods I cannot stand the smell/taste of and then there are the many foods I cannot handle the texture of. My parents didn't understand it, but they were told that I would eat eventually if I got hungry enough. My mom just kept a selection of healthy snacks around. Marg's plan is a good one to get them to try a small taste and then think about why they don't like it.</p><p> </p><p>I was always thankful that my kids' picky food choices ran along the same lines that mine do, lol! I still felt like a short order cook a lot of days. If I made pasta for dinner one kid ate just pasta and butter, another pasta and tomato sauce but no meat, a third ate pasta and meat, no sauce, and husband and I ate pasta, sauce and meat. By offering choices like that it let them feel in control. My youngest had food sensitivities (didn't show up on allergy testing but still caused problems for him) and I worked to teach him to avoid the foods. It was hard because he couldn't have tomato, dairy, pineapple, orange, strawberry or artificial sweetener of any kind. He outgrew some of it around age 5 but still cannot handle the fruits or sweeteners. By the time he went to pre-k he knew what the problem foods were and he wouldn't eat them by choice. In many ways he got lucky because he cannot stand the items that cause problems. Even their taste is awful to him, so he didn't sneak the foods. </p><p> </p><p>There are several cookbooks on the market about sneaking things into food so your kids will get the nutritional benefit and not know it. I think one is called Deceptively Delicious. They should be available used through many sources. Mostly the books call for you to puree various veggies and fruits and add them to food so no one knows they are there. It is likely worth a try, but it doesn't always work. If you don't want to cook and puree your own veggies and fruits, try using baby food. </p><p> </p><p>The more fuss you make over food the more your child is likely to refuse to eat certain things. If he is healthy and growing, and you know that the foods you offer are reasonably healthy, give him a vitamin and let it go. Involve him in cooking, choosing dishes for the menu, etc... but don't push him to eat.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 373727, member: 1233"] I understand a lot of where you are coming from. The control they can exert over their body is amazing. My son was born with a urinary problem and the first surgery was botched. The second surgery, a few years later, required the use of a catheter. The docs swore he would have no bladder control because the catheter. As he was already potty trained for some time, he was horrified by the idea of not having control and having to use a pullup. During the 2 weeks he had the catheter in he never once wet the pullup. Not a drop. The doctor didn't believe us until he took the catheter out - the end was crimped so that it was clear he was able to stop the flow from it. This doctor was a top urinary specialist at a Children's hospital and he said he had never seen anyone who could do that! As for food, I totally understand difficult child's point of view. I am a very texture driven eater. There are foods I cannot stand the smell/taste of and then there are the many foods I cannot handle the texture of. My parents didn't understand it, but they were told that I would eat eventually if I got hungry enough. My mom just kept a selection of healthy snacks around. Marg's plan is a good one to get them to try a small taste and then think about why they don't like it. I was always thankful that my kids' picky food choices ran along the same lines that mine do, lol! I still felt like a short order cook a lot of days. If I made pasta for dinner one kid ate just pasta and butter, another pasta and tomato sauce but no meat, a third ate pasta and meat, no sauce, and husband and I ate pasta, sauce and meat. By offering choices like that it let them feel in control. My youngest had food sensitivities (didn't show up on allergy testing but still caused problems for him) and I worked to teach him to avoid the foods. It was hard because he couldn't have tomato, dairy, pineapple, orange, strawberry or artificial sweetener of any kind. He outgrew some of it around age 5 but still cannot handle the fruits or sweeteners. By the time he went to pre-k he knew what the problem foods were and he wouldn't eat them by choice. In many ways he got lucky because he cannot stand the items that cause problems. Even their taste is awful to him, so he didn't sneak the foods. There are several cookbooks on the market about sneaking things into food so your kids will get the nutritional benefit and not know it. I think one is called Deceptively Delicious. They should be available used through many sources. Mostly the books call for you to puree various veggies and fruits and add them to food so no one knows they are there. It is likely worth a try, but it doesn't always work. If you don't want to cook and puree your own veggies and fruits, try using baby food. The more fuss you make over food the more your child is likely to refuse to eat certain things. If he is healthy and growing, and you know that the foods you offer are reasonably healthy, give him a vitamin and let it go. Involve him in cooking, choosing dishes for the menu, etc... but don't push him to eat. [/QUOTE]
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