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<blockquote data-quote="therese005us" data-source="post: 276667" data-attributes="member: 7416"><p>I don't mean to be rude or cutting, but everyone seems to be making suggestions to keep the peace with this child. I realise he has issues, and some are so similar to my son who is now 19... he still has problems with his eating habits. However, we as parents still have a right to keep a modicom of control in our family lives. Therefore, even if you do try to find things which your child will eat, I think it would be important to let them know that you, the parent is still in control... else don't you think the child will try it on again, when they feel like they want something better? Today it might be cheese he won't eat, so you'll find something else... tomorrow it will be the something else they won't eat... it will end up being a vicious circle with mum and dad dancing to their tune all the time. maybe the other children might mimic the behaviour to get what they want.</p><p>I've fostered for nearly 13 years and had all sorts of behaviours to deal with, not the least were the eating habits. Lots of children used the dinner table to assert their need to feel in control of a situation for a change... one child used to refuse to eat the food, but then sneak it to his room, to eat later... he never was sure where the next meal would come from...</p><p>Others used to gag deliberately for the attention she/he got... they wanted to be loved....</p><p>Others refused to eat vegetables, or particular color foods... </p><p>We managed to get through it, and eventually they learned that they didn't have to finish/like the food before them, but they just had to try a little and eat a particular amount to satisfy our rules. It never became a huge issue.</p><p>I guess what I'm trying to say is, in my humble opinion, we as parents need to make sure that the child realises we are the parent, we love them dearly, we are in control. Going down the road of cooking special foods, buying special foods, etc. to me seems a little extreme, pandering to a whim.</p><p>Now I'll duck, in case anyone wants to shout at me....</p><p> </p><p>Good luck with it, it's really not an easy one I know...</p><p> </p><p>Sorry if I've offended.... I'm saying it in love...<img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/felttip/anxious.png" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":anxious:" title="anxious :anxious:" data-shortname=":anxious:" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="therese005us, post: 276667, member: 7416"] I don't mean to be rude or cutting, but everyone seems to be making suggestions to keep the peace with this child. I realise he has issues, and some are so similar to my son who is now 19... he still has problems with his eating habits. However, we as parents still have a right to keep a modicom of control in our family lives. Therefore, even if you do try to find things which your child will eat, I think it would be important to let them know that you, the parent is still in control... else don't you think the child will try it on again, when they feel like they want something better? Today it might be cheese he won't eat, so you'll find something else... tomorrow it will be the something else they won't eat... it will end up being a vicious circle with mum and dad dancing to their tune all the time. maybe the other children might mimic the behaviour to get what they want. I've fostered for nearly 13 years and had all sorts of behaviours to deal with, not the least were the eating habits. Lots of children used the dinner table to assert their need to feel in control of a situation for a change... one child used to refuse to eat the food, but then sneak it to his room, to eat later... he never was sure where the next meal would come from... Others used to gag deliberately for the attention she/he got... they wanted to be loved.... Others refused to eat vegetables, or particular color foods... We managed to get through it, and eventually they learned that they didn't have to finish/like the food before them, but they just had to try a little and eat a particular amount to satisfy our rules. It never became a huge issue. I guess what I'm trying to say is, in my humble opinion, we as parents need to make sure that the child realises we are the parent, we love them dearly, we are in control. Going down the road of cooking special foods, buying special foods, etc. to me seems a little extreme, pandering to a whim. Now I'll duck, in case anyone wants to shout at me.... Good luck with it, it's really not an easy one I know... Sorry if I've offended.... I'm saying it in love...:anxious: [/QUOTE]
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