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<blockquote data-quote="gcvmom" data-source="post: 296952" data-attributes="member: 3444"><p>Our rule is that if you've asked us to sign you up for an activity, you are obligated to see it through to the end. No matter what. It's not just the expense that we've committed, but it's also the expectation you've created in others that you are going to participate: the coach, the other players and their families, etc. If you get to the end of the season and are absolutely miserable, we will not ask you to do it again. And if you want to try something new the next season, that's fine, but be prepared to stick it out.</p><p> </p><p>We've had the flip-flop problem with difficult child 2 for a number of reasons. When he was little, we enrolled him in a local soccer club mainly for exercise and social skills. He enjoyed it, but then he wanted to try baseball. Fine. We finished soccer and in the spring we did T-ball. Too boring, too slow. But he finished the season, and we agreed that he should probably go back to soccer. Which he did for a few years, until he got on a team with a ruthless, egotistical S.O.B. of a coach and some really rude, nasty teammates who ruined it for him. I was half tempted to let him quit, but it really would have set a bad precedent, so he finished out the season and we tried to have him learn something from the bad experience anyway. Afterall, in life we don't always get the perfect boss or the perfect job. Sometimes we have to learn to just deal with the hand we are dealt. The next year he wanted to try basketball. Fine. Unfortunately, another bad coaching situation (we must have a magnet for these people). But despite tears and frustration, we had him stick it out again, also trying to make it a teaching moment. Now he's back to soccer. And admittedly, he's a lot more stable this year than he's been in a long time, so maybe everything is going to fall into place!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="gcvmom, post: 296952, member: 3444"] Our rule is that if you've asked us to sign you up for an activity, you are obligated to see it through to the end. No matter what. It's not just the expense that we've committed, but it's also the expectation you've created in others that you are going to participate: the coach, the other players and their families, etc. If you get to the end of the season and are absolutely miserable, we will not ask you to do it again. And if you want to try something new the next season, that's fine, but be prepared to stick it out. We've had the flip-flop problem with difficult child 2 for a number of reasons. When he was little, we enrolled him in a local soccer club mainly for exercise and social skills. He enjoyed it, but then he wanted to try baseball. Fine. We finished soccer and in the spring we did T-ball. Too boring, too slow. But he finished the season, and we agreed that he should probably go back to soccer. Which he did for a few years, until he got on a team with a ruthless, egotistical S.O.B. of a coach and some really rude, nasty teammates who ruined it for him. I was half tempted to let him quit, but it really would have set a bad precedent, so he finished out the season and we tried to have him learn something from the bad experience anyway. Afterall, in life we don't always get the perfect boss or the perfect job. Sometimes we have to learn to just deal with the hand we are dealt. The next year he wanted to try basketball. Fine. Unfortunately, another bad coaching situation (we must have a magnet for these people). But despite tears and frustration, we had him stick it out again, also trying to make it a teaching moment. Now he's back to soccer. And admittedly, he's a lot more stable this year than he's been in a long time, so maybe everything is going to fall into place! [/QUOTE]
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