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<blockquote data-quote="AnnieO" data-source="post: 296960" data-attributes="member: 6705"><p>Jett has a love/hate relationship with football too.</p><p> </p><p><em>I just re-read this post and it sounds like I'm hijacking the thread. Not - bear with me!!! Just some history.</em></p><p> </p><p>In 1st and 2nd grade, BM signed him up (in her city). He was the smallest kid on the team. He didn't want to practice (5 days a week - for that age kids?!)... And he had a severe wetting problem. He would get upset at the coaches, wet himself, and it was all over.</p><p> </p><p>Not that I can blame him. If the kids didn't score, the coaches would yell at them and thump them on ther helmets. And I don't mean a friendly thump, I mean an all-out THUMP. The kids would do what the coaches said to, the other team would score, and our team would get extra practice time doing push-ups or running.</p><p> </p><p>Add to that the fact that BM used it as an excuse to interfere with the kids' time with husband (Onyxx was in cheerleading at the same time. She hated it.) So the kids had added stress... One of the rules for that particular city was "<em>Homework is <strong>not</strong> an excuse for missing practice.</em>" WHAT?!</p><p> </p><p>Then we took over residential, and part of the court order was that we HAD to sign the kids up for football, cheer, soccer and baseball.</p><p> </p><p>So we did. That was a mistake. Now we are down to football only - we cannot afford all the other stuff, AND the kids don't want to. But... 3rd grade, Jett's new team made it to the final round of the tournament and lost by one touchdown - it should have been ours, but the refs called their TD as 1/2 yard short. I still have an issue with this as I have a picture showing the whole child, ball included, over the line. But, you know what? It taught our boys to accept that sometimes, life isn't fair, and things happen that shouldn't.</p><p> </p><p>Last year (4th), the team made it to the semifinals. Lost to the same team as the finals the year before. Same refs, too, I think - one of the kids on that team grabbed one of our kids' helmet, by the face mask, and actually pulled the helmet off. (Umm, face mask, unnecessary roughness, s/b a 30-yard penalty... I'm learning!) But, still, a good showing.</p><p> </p><p>Well, after 2 weeks of practice... Jett hates practice. And he goes back and forth on wanting to play. Well, he was asked his opinion before sign-up and he really, really wanted to. So. I pointed that out to him, and told him he has to stick it out.</p><p> </p><p>His attitude got a lot better once he got to actually run the ball in practice. This is something he's never been allowed to do, because he's been too small and slow. Well... He's catching up now!</p><p> </p><p>So... My advice... Tell difficult child if Jett can keep going... So can he. Also... Parks & Rec isn't quite as competitive as the Junior Football Conference... And it's good discipline. Mental <em>and </em>physical.</p><p> </p><p>If he doesn't want to practice, make him get ready and go out there. Make him talk to the coach and the other kids. It is <em>his</em> decision not to be a team player. But - make him do it for every practice. And then make him sit there and watch, not leave early!!!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="AnnieO, post: 296960, member: 6705"] Jett has a love/hate relationship with football too. [I]I just re-read this post and it sounds like I'm hijacking the thread. Not - bear with me!!! Just some history.[/I] In 1st and 2nd grade, BM signed him up (in her city). He was the smallest kid on the team. He didn't want to practice (5 days a week - for that age kids?!)... And he had a severe wetting problem. He would get upset at the coaches, wet himself, and it was all over. Not that I can blame him. If the kids didn't score, the coaches would yell at them and thump them on ther helmets. And I don't mean a friendly thump, I mean an all-out THUMP. The kids would do what the coaches said to, the other team would score, and our team would get extra practice time doing push-ups or running. Add to that the fact that BM used it as an excuse to interfere with the kids' time with husband (Onyxx was in cheerleading at the same time. She hated it.) So the kids had added stress... One of the rules for that particular city was "[I]Homework is [B]not[/B] an excuse for missing practice.[/I]" WHAT?! Then we took over residential, and part of the court order was that we HAD to sign the kids up for football, cheer, soccer and baseball. So we did. That was a mistake. Now we are down to football only - we cannot afford all the other stuff, AND the kids don't want to. But... 3rd grade, Jett's new team made it to the final round of the tournament and lost by one touchdown - it should have been ours, but the refs called their TD as 1/2 yard short. I still have an issue with this as I have a picture showing the whole child, ball included, over the line. But, you know what? It taught our boys to accept that sometimes, life isn't fair, and things happen that shouldn't. Last year (4th), the team made it to the semifinals. Lost to the same team as the finals the year before. Same refs, too, I think - one of the kids on that team grabbed one of our kids' helmet, by the face mask, and actually pulled the helmet off. (Umm, face mask, unnecessary roughness, s/b a 30-yard penalty... I'm learning!) But, still, a good showing. Well, after 2 weeks of practice... Jett hates practice. And he goes back and forth on wanting to play. Well, he was asked his opinion before sign-up and he really, really wanted to. So. I pointed that out to him, and told him he has to stick it out. His attitude got a lot better once he got to actually run the ball in practice. This is something he's never been allowed to do, because he's been too small and slow. Well... He's catching up now! So... My advice... Tell difficult child if Jett can keep going... So can he. Also... Parks & Rec isn't quite as competitive as the Junior Football Conference... And it's good discipline. Mental [I]and [/I]physical. If he doesn't want to practice, make him get ready and go out there. Make him talk to the coach and the other kids. It is [I]his[/I] decision not to be a team player. But - make him do it for every practice. And then make him sit there and watch, not leave early!!! [/QUOTE]
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