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<blockquote data-quote="Shari" data-source="post: 362243" data-attributes="member: 1848"><p>I'm weird, but that's not news to any of you.</p><p>***</p><p>I think this is the way it should be. (the divorced situation, not the situation bro and ex put you in). As long as there is not some big ugly reason for the divorce, the parents should realize they loved each other enuf once upon a time to get naked together, and now there's a life as a result, and that life deserves a chance to love both of its parents equally. </p><p>***</p><p>It doesn't mean that life deserves 2 or 3 of everything, so if the parents can be man/woman enuf to suck it up for the kid, they should be. Christmas is a family celebration - have the family there. Etc.</p><p>***</p><p>Now, what bro and ex do to you crosses some lines, in my humble opinion, but I guess I don't think its because the ex is around. I'm guessing he'd be that way if she wasn't. Its just an extra body treating you that way with her there.</p><p>***</p><p>husband's ex isn't even allowed to talk to us by her new husband. Her new husband is so adamantly against "the ex'es". Makes it very difficult to parent a child together, and I think everyone in the circle of doing so will tell you she's the one paying, and she's very spoiled and knows how to work the system. But because communication lines are so limited, there's not much we can do.</p><p>***</p><p>I, on the other hand, would be devastated if my DEX's family tossed me. Christmas this past year was hard, because its the first year I've not spent the day with them when they celebrated (because of whack job girlfriend). We all got together (including DEX and whack job girlfriend) a few days later, but it was still hard. The early years were weird, but we muddled thru and now its just as normal as the sun going down at night. </p><p>***</p><p>ExBIL and I shot together this past weekend, and had a great time. He just introduces me as his sister, and it just makes my heart sing, because I truly love those people. I acquired an antique McClellan saddle yesterday that I could probably sell for a couple hundred bucks, but I'm giving it to exBIL, because he's into that stuff and loves them, and he and the rest of the family do so much for me.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Shari, post: 362243, member: 1848"] I'm weird, but that's not news to any of you. *** I think this is the way it should be. (the divorced situation, not the situation bro and ex put you in). As long as there is not some big ugly reason for the divorce, the parents should realize they loved each other enuf once upon a time to get naked together, and now there's a life as a result, and that life deserves a chance to love both of its parents equally. *** It doesn't mean that life deserves 2 or 3 of everything, so if the parents can be man/woman enuf to suck it up for the kid, they should be. Christmas is a family celebration - have the family there. Etc. *** Now, what bro and ex do to you crosses some lines, in my humble opinion, but I guess I don't think its because the ex is around. I'm guessing he'd be that way if she wasn't. Its just an extra body treating you that way with her there. *** husband's ex isn't even allowed to talk to us by her new husband. Her new husband is so adamantly against "the ex'es". Makes it very difficult to parent a child together, and I think everyone in the circle of doing so will tell you she's the one paying, and she's very spoiled and knows how to work the system. But because communication lines are so limited, there's not much we can do. *** I, on the other hand, would be devastated if my DEX's family tossed me. Christmas this past year was hard, because its the first year I've not spent the day with them when they celebrated (because of whack job girlfriend). We all got together (including DEX and whack job girlfriend) a few days later, but it was still hard. The early years were weird, but we muddled thru and now its just as normal as the sun going down at night. *** ExBIL and I shot together this past weekend, and had a great time. He just introduces me as his sister, and it just makes my heart sing, because I truly love those people. I acquired an antique McClellan saddle yesterday that I could probably sell for a couple hundred bucks, but I'm giving it to exBIL, because he's into that stuff and loves them, and he and the rest of the family do so much for me. [/QUOTE]
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