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"For every 'negative', find 2 positives."
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<blockquote data-quote="Shari" data-source="post: 172568" data-attributes="member: 1848"><p>Sounds good to me.</p><p> </p><p>This is IHBT's mainline of attack. Reduce the negatives to difficult child and give at least double the amount of positive feedback to him in any given hour/day.</p><p> </p><p>So, armed with my new plan, I headed out to take difficult child and his dog to the vet for a checkup. Since the dog is difficult child's, and he's proud of it, I took him, thinking it would be good for him.</p><p> </p><p>Bad idea.</p><p> </p><p>40 minutes of he!! at the vet later, the only thing positive I could think of during that time was to say "Oh look, you're still breathing!" </p><p> </p><p>And I was really, really digging to find something positive to say, cause the "don't throw that ball" and "stop dragging that other person's dog away" and "stop poking the dog on the grooming table" and the physical restraint required to make him actually stop these things was the primary focus of that trip (dog's fine - good thing it behaved).</p><p> </p><p>Seriously. He was so bad the vet rushed us out. Yesterday he ran everyone out of the swimming pool (a public pool - only 2 kids stayed in once he got there). Now, I understand the concept here, but really...when they are in that mode, where do you dig up positives???</p><p> </p><p>Oh yeah, and in order to reduce negatives, we may have to overlook some things, but not so many that he's not socially acceptable...</p><p> </p><p>Um, ok...</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Shari, post: 172568, member: 1848"] Sounds good to me. This is IHBT's mainline of attack. Reduce the negatives to difficult child and give at least double the amount of positive feedback to him in any given hour/day. So, armed with my new plan, I headed out to take difficult child and his dog to the vet for a checkup. Since the dog is difficult child's, and he's proud of it, I took him, thinking it would be good for him. Bad idea. 40 minutes of he!! at the vet later, the only thing positive I could think of during that time was to say "Oh look, you're still breathing!" And I was really, really digging to find something positive to say, cause the "don't throw that ball" and "stop dragging that other person's dog away" and "stop poking the dog on the grooming table" and the physical restraint required to make him actually stop these things was the primary focus of that trip (dog's fine - good thing it behaved). Seriously. He was so bad the vet rushed us out. Yesterday he ran everyone out of the swimming pool (a public pool - only 2 kids stayed in once he got there). Now, I understand the concept here, but really...when they are in that mode, where do you dig up positives??? Oh yeah, and in order to reduce negatives, we may have to overlook some things, but not so many that he's not socially acceptable... Um, ok... [/QUOTE]
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