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For those who did Residential Treatment Center (RTC), are your kids still upset??? Even years later?
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<blockquote data-quote="ScentofCedar" data-source="post: 8126" data-attributes="member: 3353"><p>[ QUOTE ]</p><p></p><p></p><p>I have always accepted that I would be the bad guy and he wouldn't have the same "warm fuzzies" for me that some children have for their mother. </p><p></p><p>He is alive, he is functioning, he is growing up. </p><p></p><p>If that result is because I was a bad guy and sent him to egbs or put him on medications or forced him to meet the goals to get what he wanted- so be it. </p><p></p><p>He was failing as a human being on many fronts and there were no other "nicer" options. </p><p></p><p>Tell him to get over himself. </p><p></p><p> He will have to come up with a better reason for being such a little butthead. </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>[/ QUOTE ]</p><p></p><p>***</p><p></p><p>I think Fran's sentiments here are good things for us all to remember ~ along with Suz' Maya Angelou quote.</p><p></p><p>None of us intentionally raised our children so that the day would come when we could put them into treatment. </p><p></p><p>Every one of us did the best she knew to do.</p><p></p><p>Many of us (myself included) would never use the services of a treatment center again.</p><p></p><p>For the poster who still harbors resentment toward their mother ~ remember what part you played in forcing her to make that choice.</p><p></p><p>For the record, I had one child who went through numerous treatments ~ and turned out to have been misdiagnosed. Her illness was physiologically based. </p><p></p><p>But by the time she was correctly diagnosed, it was too late for our family.</p><p></p><p>This child says she learned many things in treatment that have helped her as she has gone on to meet the challenges attending her illness.</p><p></p><p>The other child resents us because we did NOT put him into treatment.</p><p> </p><p>At the time everyone was instructing parents to send our children to these (very expensive) treatment centers, the other thing they were telling us was that our children would die without treatment.</p><p></p><p>I agree with Fran. The person who has gone through treatment and continues to harbor resentment is playing Manipulation in a big way. </p><p></p><p>Fran's response, and Suz' Maya quote, are the things that will get us through this time with our senses of self intact.</p><p></p><p>I am sorry this is happening to you, and to your family.</p><p></p><p>Barbara</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="ScentofCedar, post: 8126, member: 3353"] [ QUOTE ] I have always accepted that I would be the bad guy and he wouldn't have the same "warm fuzzies" for me that some children have for their mother. He is alive, he is functioning, he is growing up. If that result is because I was a bad guy and sent him to egbs or put him on medications or forced him to meet the goals to get what he wanted- so be it. He was failing as a human being on many fronts and there were no other "nicer" options. Tell him to get over himself. He will have to come up with a better reason for being such a little butthead. [/ QUOTE ] *** I think Fran's sentiments here are good things for us all to remember ~ along with Suz' Maya Angelou quote. None of us intentionally raised our children so that the day would come when we could put them into treatment. Every one of us did the best she knew to do. Many of us (myself included) would never use the services of a treatment center again. For the poster who still harbors resentment toward their mother ~ remember what part you played in forcing her to make that choice. For the record, I had one child who went through numerous treatments ~ and turned out to have been misdiagnosed. Her illness was physiologically based. But by the time she was correctly diagnosed, it was too late for our family. This child says she learned many things in treatment that have helped her as she has gone on to meet the challenges attending her illness. The other child resents us because we did NOT put him into treatment. At the time everyone was instructing parents to send our children to these (very expensive) treatment centers, the other thing they were telling us was that our children would die without treatment. I agree with Fran. The person who has gone through treatment and continues to harbor resentment is playing Manipulation in a big way. Fran's response, and Suz' Maya quote, are the things that will get us through this time with our senses of self intact. I am sorry this is happening to you, and to your family. Barbara [/QUOTE]
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